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polyprotic
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Since I went home for winter break (I hadn't seen my family or the sites of my abuse for three months) I've been feeling an overwhelming amount of emotion and have been very easily triggered. I rarely feel anything about my past, so I've found the past few weeks pretty difficult to cope with.

The ways I've tried to feel better lately have been anything but constructive, and it seems like I'm on a slippery slope here. I've started getting drunk and/or high during the week (something I never used to do) and excessively on the weekends. I also began a casual sexual relationship with an acquaintance from high school, which I might or might not have been ready for.

I've tried working out instead of those things, but I've even taken that to a quite unhealthy level. I feel like nothing that used to make me feel at least a little better is helping at all. So far I've managed to stay on top of my grades, but I don't know how long I can keep that up. I was in therapy for a bit, but I quickly found out that I'm not anywhere near ready to deal with things yet.

Does anyone have any advice on what I can do to at least keep myself in check until I can get control of my emotions again? Should I consider taking the semester off from school?

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Well, what would you do if you took the semester off?

Have you reconsidered going back into therapy? A good therapist shouldn't be pushing you to places you're not ready to go just yet, so if you felt like therapy made you more traumatized, you may have just not had a therapist who was the right one for you.

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I'm really not sure what I would do. It would probably mean going home, which might only make things worse. But the stress of my classes isn't helping any, either.

I have definitely considered going back, if just to help me get a grip. I like my therapist, but I'm back in that catch-22 where I need to talk to someone, but talking brings up more pain sometimes.

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Is your therapist helping you with managing the pain that can occur during therapy?

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Yeah, he's taught me some techniques which are usually very helpful.
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So, perhaps you just need to go back and make clear you need a little more help or aftercare when it comes to sessions that bring up things you feel challenged managing after you leave the office?

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