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babygirl_sosu
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has anyone else's mother talked down to them because they were having pre-marital sex? to me sex is not only intamacy and spiritual its also very biological. I like to have sex but not just because of the "feel good" part of it, i'm also in a serious relationship. has anyone else been through something similar like this? i'm trying to make sense of it all because the "talk" that every girl or guy gets from one of their parents has been goin on for like 4 years, and i want to know how to either make it stop or make her understand. (feel free to vent)
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Did your mother save sex for marriage herself? Did your father?

I ask because of Americans over the last 100 years or so, a very small percentage of people did or do still.

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my mother did but my father definetly did not.
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Okay, so that may be a good entry into a better conversation. You can make clear, calmly and kindly, that you aren't the only person even in your family who had sex before marriage, and also that most people, including your father, did or do.

You can maybe then express that you understand it's an issue for her with her beliefs, but she obviously adapted those for your father, and ask if she might consider that, like your father, you have your own reasons for sex before/without marriage, too?

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