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Rae**
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I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but I just needed some advice or support. Today should have been the start of my second year exams which I didn't take the first time round because of depression. I tried so hard for these and did as much as I could but I've been so panicked and anxious about them. I tried to calm down and I just thought i'd give it a go, but I got into the exam this morning, I opened the paper and my mind was just blank. I had the most horrible panic attack, i've never had one before, but this was horrible my heart was just pounding and everything went all blurry. I know now why people confuse them for heart attacks. So I had to leave.

Basically now it means that I can't do my others this time and I have to wait till next May to try again. I'm feeling really weird, its kind of like relief as yesterday I felt like I wanted to die my depression hit a new low, but i'm also feeling really upset because I feel like i've failed, like maybe I should have tried to stay in the exam a bit longer, maybe I would have calmed down?

I'm sorry I don't really know what i'm asking, I think I just need reassurring that this happens to others as well and that I didn't just ruin my chances of finishing my degree.

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Stephanie_1
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Rae: I’m sorry you’re having such a tough time with taking your exams. As an education major with another praxis test just around the corner I understand how frightening the situation can feel. The first place you really need to go is to meet with your advisor. You want to make sure they understand how this test makes you feel and they can give you some ideas on how to prepare in a more structured way for this. They’re also the one that can help get you on track with everything else you need to graduate. It may also help you to speak with a counselor that works for the school. One of the main things that they work with students for is anxiety related to classes, assignments, and tests.

Additionally, do you happen to know if there’s a preparation course for your test? A lot of times going to a prep course where you take a pre-test that’s set up like the real test can give you a better idea of the environment and rules surrounding taking the test. This play acting in preparation for the real test helps a lot of people to become comfortable with the idea of taking the test and what types of things they’ll be asking.

One of the biggest things is before you even open your book you need to breathe. Take a few deep calming breaths and tell yourself “I’ve prepared, and I can do this.” Once you open your test the first part is your name and information – which is always first to help ease students. After all – who knows better than us our name, right?

Study Guides and Strategies has a nice set-up of information about working through test anxiety. It's actually a site recommended by my University for all freshmen to read prior to taking a test in their first class. I still find it extremely helpful three years later. There's different sections linked at the top so taking a run through the site as a whole may be helpful to you.

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Rae**
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Hi, I spoke to the examinations officer for my law school, he said I should take the year out and do my exams next May. He already knows that I had them deferred the first time so he went through all the options. I could have applied to re-do the year but the faculty don't think i'm healthy enough so they want me to wait. I think i'm okay with this, i've been thinking about it for a few hours and I spoke to a friend on my course. I'm calmer now, still disappointed but I think its for the best.

We can get practise exam papers to do, I think I will take some of those before my next attempt. Yeah the deep breathing is a good idea and I tried very hard to do that but I was already panicking before I got to my desk. Ahh thank you so much for the link, I think that will really help for next time. And I think I will have to think seriously about going back to my counsellor or finding someone else because my depression has got a lot worse over the past month.

Thank you for replying.

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Stephanie_1
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Rae: As long as you are okay with waiting the year – it might actually be a lot of help for you to do so. A year is a lot of time, and in that year you can work through relaxed studying and really have a chance to work on test anxiety. Maybe this year is just what you need to really take the test into hand and become comfortable with it.

Definitely taking practice tests can help you assure you that you’re comfortable with the test. Sounds like you’re really seeing in light what you need and want to do for yourself, and we’re here to support you in any way that we can.

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