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BreakingSilence
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well so today I was at the store, and it is sort of a plaza where there is many other stores surrounding it. Well my little sister, ( who is my half sister)we share the same mom...she's 10.. she texted me and asked me where i was.. turned out she was in another store right near where i was. I never get to see her hardly because her dad is so thick-headed and arrogant.She called me and told me to come to the store and meet her in there. She was with her dad's ( my stepdads) friends daughter( she's 16) a girl i had babysat since she was about 8. My step dad has a store he opened right about less than a min. down the road from there where they were w/ their dad's..the girls had walked. It was hot out earlier so I told them I'd drive them over and drop them off. Totally harmless.. I drop them off.. then 5 mins later I get a phone call from my sister's dad and he's screaming at me.. and told me " Next time you decided to pick "my daughter" up and take her anywhere without me knowing i will call the police. Right now im calling them to put a restraining order on you!" All I said was " Thats my sister and you can't tell me I'm not allowed to see her!" then he hung up on me and yelled at her and told her to forget about seeing me again. This is the little girl I helped raise. I dont understand why I was good enough to take her places and everything when i lived with her.. but now he throws a fit. Someday he'll get his pay back because he's been nothing but mean to everyone.. He shouldn't be at all surprised if one day she moves out like I did .

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BreakingSilence
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what should I do ?

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Heather
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Given all the conflict and drama going on in your family right now, I'd suggest not seeing your sister -- and certainly not giving her a ride somewhere without your mother or stepfather having any idea where she went, which isn't sage in the best of conditions: it's never harmless to go off with a kid without parents knowing they are with someone -- without an arranged visit.

Mind, your stepfather isn't likely to follow through with a restraining order, nor have any luck getting one if he does. But he does have custody, and you don't, and you know that there is big conflict i your family right now. It's tough enough for you, so I'd not suggest any actions that create more conflict like this.

I sympathize with you wanting to see your sister, as well as with the way your stepfather is behaving, but driving up the drama just isn't going to make things better: it's only going to make them even worse.

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BreakingSilence
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its really hard because i feel like im completely alone in this unending war.. i have no one to look out for me but me...

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Heather
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You talked about a fiance before: is he around to support you?

How about your friends?

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