well i have low self esteem when it comes down to sex. i hate my body and it's getting in my way ... my boyfriend complements me all of the time but i can't seem to believe him what can i do to get over this phase
-------------------- rayleen Posts: 4 | From: united states | Registered: Jun 2008
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chesarasara889 I recently went through the same thing. I have always thought that everyone was prettier or skinnier or cooler than me. It wasnt till about last month (may) that I realized that I am never going to look like the models in magazines even though i would LOVE TOO!! I also just recently started to appreciate compliments that I am given. Maybe thats something that you can do. When your boyfriend compliments take a second and look yourself in the mirror and repeat the compliment in your head and really make your self realize that you are beautiful or gorgeous or what ever compliment you are given. Dont try to conform to what everyone else wants to look like. So basically OWN your compliments and except them and when ur feeling bad think about them!!! I hope this helps.
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I used to have low self esteem too. I was always scared of what people thought of me. At first I thought I was just scared to public speaking, and that if I practiced enough, I would get good at it. Then I realized that the bigger issue was that I cared to much of what other people think of me. Perhaps the bigger issue here is not just in sex, but that you don't like yourself in other ways?
What really helped me I kind of wrote about here, but I'll just kind of summarize the key point, and that is positive thinking. Here is a book that can give you an idea of what I'm talking about called The Power of the Subconscious Mind but I'm not saying it's the only way. My theory is that if you start thinking only positive things about yourself, AND OTHERS! (this includes no more going through magazines and criticizing celebrities or models for being "too fat" or having a "weird looking nose." or making fun of Susie in homeroom about her uglypolka dot overalls). Think only good thoughts and you'll continue to make a habit out of it, and then you'll start to love yourself for being loving! It's a wonderful cycle.
good luck, you can do it!
-------------------- "Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions." Posts: 171 | From: USA/CHINA | Registered: Aug 2008
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