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Allysa
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Hey I know when I post here ppl are getting sick of me being here, but I could use some advice.

I am scared of myself, lately I seem to be constantly angry for no apparent reason, the smallest things seems to set me off and when I'm around my friends I get images in my head of hurting them and they are quite violent images, I could never imagine doing them but lately I have wanted to hurt someone because I am so angry.

I constantly hit my friend just for the fun of hurting them and that terrifies me as I am not usually a violent person, but I just get so angry and frustrated that I lash out and always at the wrong person.

I don't want to hurt ppl but I feel it's either them or myself so I hurt them.

The angry just seems to bubble up out of nowhere, one minute I'm happy and cheerful the next I'm breathing heavily, my palms start to sweat, my attitude changes dramatically and I just feel the urge to hit something really hard.

I've tried punching bags and stuff but I don't get the same satisfaction as I do when I hear it's hurting ppl and I feel sick actually saying that.

I really need to know why I am so angry and how I can be safe around my friends.

Plz

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CondomMan
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It sounds like you really need to talk to someone who has experience with this sort of thing, either a psychologist or an anger management specialist. I'd say you really need to learn to channel your anger in a less destructive manner.

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Allysa
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I went to my councellor on Wednesday and she bascially said that because I hadn't been in thereapy for a few months all my thoughts and feelings and feelings had no way of getting out( I.e spilling my guts) they had built up and just exploded, which honestly makes me feel worse, knowing that by not talking about what has happened will just send me off into a flying rage.

It would be nice for once in my life to not have to go over and over again what has happened because that is just as destructive to me as it just depresses me.

Can someone plz help me, I don't want to be reliant on other people to help me with my issues but it seems that atm I have to get things off my chest, I don't want to have to be constantly reminded of what has happened.

Can someone suggest another way of coping?

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Ally

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Heather
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How about sticking with your therapy for a while?

Mind, I don't mean therapy that has you rehashing the details of your abuse over and ovwer again. Really, no abuse therapist should or would have you doing that, or be asking you to do that, because a) it's a bit of a dead-end, b) because of COURSE it's going to be traumatic, and c) because that's not the real issue.

What happened is never the issue, unless a person is having trouble remembering, or they WANT to rehash/remember it. If you know what happened already, there's just no need, because the therapy should be about sorting out your feelings about it, working through what's happened since per how you can recover and manage the trauma, and setting goals for what you can be doing to move on.

So, if this therapist IS only wanting a rehash, then it's time to either talk to her about it if you want to stick with her, or time to look for a new therapist.

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Heather
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I'd also suggest that you ask your friends for help here per asking them to stand very firm when you do start to hurt one of them: in other words, have them set VERY firm limits with you, such as it you start to hit one of them, they LEAVE, and get away from you.

Make clear that you do not want to be doing this, but that they are by no means expected to put up with abuse from you.

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