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bugsy182
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For a long time I was addicted to cybersex.
It started as an easy and anonymous way to explore sexually, then it turned into an addiction.
I was doing it every night; all night. And when I wasn't I was depressed/angry, I wasn't me at all.
I started the cybersex in 8th grade. I stopped/my parents stopped me in 10th grade.
But, now I am a freshman in college and there are no parents or anything. And I am worried.
I have done it a few times. And I don't want it to become a problem again.
I want to find a support group/any support in this situation.

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Ecofem
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Sorry to hear about this challenge, Becca. I don't know of any legit support groups off the top of my head, but maybe someone else can give you a lead.

It's good to be aware of negative past behaviors popping back up. However, it's not so much the cybersex that was bad, but that it was an addiction. Chances are that other factors, such as an underlying depression, were at play. I would recommend seeking professional help to find alternatives and coping strategies for the long-run. (And you absolutely shouldn't feel ashamed for it or for being a female dealing with something people might assume is more common among men.) What about looking into campus counselling services? (You don't immediately have to give details when making the appointment; you could say it's an internet addiction to help match you up with a fitting counselor.)

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Gumdrop Girl
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What do you personally feel you gain by engaging in cybersex? Do you crave a certain kind of attention? Validation? Or is it from sexual compulsion?

If you feel that the behavior is really interfering with your regular life, have you considered talknig to a counselor?

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