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sovereign
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My friend, his mother, his father, and his unborn son were all killed last friday in a car accident. the only survivor, was the son's 18 year old girlfriend who was expecting.
the only people left in eddies family, is his brother.
this is the first time I've lost someone, and to be honest, i don't know where to start. I don't know how to react, how to stop the nausea, how to come to terms with everything, I just.. need. Help.

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KittenGoddess
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Oh hon...*big hugs*

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend and his family. What you're feeling now is totally normal. It's unimaginable to lose someone so unexpectedly.

Is there someone you can talk to? Maybe a parent or close friend?

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sovereign
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I have aquaintences, but no friend who I can share emotional talk with.
My dad, whom I tried talking to... well, he doesn't know how to show emotion, so I had to pretend like I wasn't sad, when I talked with him.
My mum will just make talking about it awkward.
I just.. I feel quite numb actually. Like it isn't happening, and yet, you sort of know it has.

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Gwaihir
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The numbness and unreality you're feeling is most likely shock, which is perfectly normal in this situation as KittenGoddess said, but this is a HUGE loss to bear and feeling helpless and not sure what to do, it usually requires outside help, so is there another family member you trust that you can talk to, or even a school counselor?
Perhaps you can also try and reach out to your friend's brother and girlfriend? No doubt they're in the same space as you right now.
Whatever you choose to do, you have my condolances. [Frown]

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