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sexualghost
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Alright...i guess i could use some advice or input from people anyone really cuz at this point i'm at a loss into what my gut's telling me.

To the point... A few weeks ago my uncle/godfather was at a conference..and much to his surprise my father was there, who i haven't seen since i was 12 i am now 19. My father asked my uncle to pass along some information to me in which he did...my dad basicly asked me to call him because he wanted to talk.

I really don't know what i should do, part of me wants to call him and talk to him and ask him a $#!^ load of questions and possibly yell but another part of me doesn't want to for some sort of fear or something like that. I really don't know what i should do...i'm losing sleep over this and it's stressing me out.

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LilBlueSmurf
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I'm having trouble answering this post w/o knowing more information.

Why are you estranged from your father? What are you worried is going to happen if you let him back into your life now? What do your friends and family think of this?

Is it possible to set up a meeting with your father with someone else (maybe your uncle/godfather) present?

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Essentially my dad just packed up and left without saying a word to me, or anyone for that matter my parents were divorced long before this happened...I'm not entirely sure what i'm worried about...i've just recently gotten over a depression, and i guess i'm just scared that its going to resurface...

As for setting up a meeting, i don't think that'll fly most of my family don't think to highly of him and most likely wouldn't want me to put myself in that position...but i don't know.

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LilBlueSmurf
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Have you forgiven your dad for leaving without saying goodbye? Or leaving at all?

What do you have to gain/lose from getting back in touch with him?

Perhaps letters back and forth may be a good way to restart a relationship with your dad. This gives you time to think about what you want to say to him, and doesn't put either of you on the spot to come up w/ a quick response. And if you don't like what you're reading, you don't have to write back.

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Hmm...that's a good idea...i think i'll try it...
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