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I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on how to stop having nightmares or at least how to make myself have them less often. I have them every night. Most of them are really clear and I can see his (the man who raped me) face really clearly. Usually its more a memory than a dream, it will be like a clear recall of one of the times I was raped. I wake up and I feel really sick and I feel like I have had no sleep at all. And then I feel sick for hours afterward.

I really need to find a way to get rid of these, my rapist is not hurting me anymore, but in a way I still see him every night, and it sucks.
Thanks for the help!


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nixie, have you tried holistic and therapeutic stuff before bed? I'm thinking stuff like meditation, using lavender scented aromatherapy, drinking chamomile tea - anything that can calm you before bed and let you release the stresses of the day.

Dreams are often an indicator of things that are affecting us in our daily lives, even if we're not totally aware of it. Obviously you're going through some pretty stressful stuff between dealing with your rape, and the extra stress your friends and family are placing on you. It's no wonder your mind as you sleep is reflecting that. However, making an effort to empty your mind before you rest will help keep nightmares from interrupting getting rest (and relief from the scary reminders of your assault.)

If you can set up a ritual that makes you comfortable each night before sleep, perhaps actively trying to empty out your mind and/or dwelling on things that bring you joy. Light a candle for something to focus on, if that will help but it's really about making a routine before bedtime that suits you and makes you comfortable. Focusing on relaxing every part of your body will help you relax while you're sleeping as well. Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab makes some wonderful sleep oils, under their Somnium line, including one specific to banishing nightmares (Baku.)

Other things can help too, like setting a sleep schedule and trying to go to bed at the same time every night, as well as drinking lots of water, eating right and exercising. Generally, taking care of your body helps sleep come naturally and fully.

I wish you all the luck in the world, though - I struggled with nightmare related insomnia a lot when I was younger, and less so now, but I fully identify with feeling unsettled and sick after the particularly vivid ones. I hope some of these suggestions help.

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