am 15 and have a troubled family uhmm..am also the eldest,i'll get to the poin my father is really hard workin' for us but my mother is having an affair with another man the bad thing is she is eventually trying to manipulate me in to trying to like him i really couldn'T believe...i just hate HER she doesn't even thinks that my father is sick but still working for us,i couldn't even say out loud all my anger bout what she did....bec. tha thing is she doesn't actually cares! i tried runnin' away but i have no relatives here nor got any money... Posts: 13 | From: philippines | Registered: Nov 2005
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I'm so sorry you're having to carry this burden.
It might be wrth trying to make clear how you feel: if you can't say it, write it down. It's also fair for you to make clear that you do not want a relationship with this man because that is a betrayal of your father to you.
It's so hard with things like this, because we can never know the details of our parents interpersonal relationship to some degree, so when something like this happens, it's confusing as heck, our loyalties are torn, and we really can't know what's up at all. (Or what our parents have agreed to amongst themselves, or what they choose to tolerate, etc.)
Running away strikes me as a poor answer regardless. Who do you have for in-person support there? Any sort of school counselor, for instance? A trusted neighbor? Another sibling?
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