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hottness
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Ok so I found out that I was pregnant and I am only 14. When I told my boyfriend (19) he freaked out and told me that he wanted me 2 have an abortion. I don't really know what 2 do. I am soo scared. When I told him that I didn't want 2 have an abortion he hit me. Should I leave him and should I have an abortion or should I keep it or put it up for adoption? Please help me
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Bobolink
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Have a look at my reply to your question in Ask Scarleteen. But also pay attention to the advice you will find here. I would also suggest you read through the Pregnancy and Parenting forum.

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Bobolink
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Sorry, I missed the point about him hitting you and where you live. That is the crime of assault. As he is 19 and you are 14 that is statutory rape in Utah. You need to talk to your parents and the police now!

In the meantime, have nothing to do with him. He is dangerous.

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I do not feel obliged to believe that the same God who has endowed us with sense, reason, and intellect has intended us to forgo their use.

- Galileo

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mommy4life15
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That guy is a loser. Don't talk to him. Talk to the police, you should not be abused no matter what.

As for asking what you should do, only you can decide. Im 15 and 37 weeks pregnant. Pregnancy is a wonderful thing but only if you are ready to grow up and take care of another human being. I know that I have a huge responsibility ahead of me and I understand that.

Adoption and abortion are other options. There are 2 types of adoption. Open and closed. In open adoption your child's adopted family will send pictures and milestones or your child's growth. Then of course the last choice is abortion.

I'm not telling you what to do, i'm telling of the options. You should research adoption or abortion more before making a decision on anything!

Good Luck to you!

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~*~Ashley~*~
Proud mommy to Rylee Nicole!

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DemoDemon
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sorry but what a creep if i ever got my gf pregnant ide do anything to make life easier even if it meant to quit school..... and he hit you? what a friggin @$$hole imsorry to sound like a girly guy but if i was anywhere where a guy hit a girl ide teach that guy a lesson what i really cant stand is when a dude wont leave a girl alone and she wants him to go away.. what can i say i try to be a gentleman.. sorry for the offtopic
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nephthys
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no matter what you do, DO NOT stay in an abusive relationship. YOU DESERVE BETTER! If you have the child, it deserves better. For more support, you should definitely check out
www.girlmom.com

It is a wonderful and supportive group of young mothers and kidless supporters who are there for you. They have articles in the 'features' section of the site which have all sorts of information about every aspect of young motherhood and pregnancy.

What it comes down to is it is your choice. Do what you feel is right, and don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you do not want to do. You have the right to choose.

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Heather
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quote:
Originally posted by DemoDemon:
imsorry to sound like a girly guy but if i was anywhere where a guy hit a girl ide teach that guy a lesson

For the record, there is nothing "girly" about not being abusive. And I think (I hope!) we can agree that assualting women isn't "manly."

And abusing an abuser back, or attacking them, tends to be entirely counterproductive at ending abuse.

In fact, when someone outside the couple attacks an abusive partner, almost ALWAYS, the person who suffers the most for it is the person who is already being abused, because the abuser then knows or decides the victimized partner has told others about the abuse.

So, the best way to "teach a lesson" to an abuser is to report them to the police and to aid the victim in separating from the abuser and getting into a safe space.

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