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Lady Bird
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Alright, any advice on this would be greatly appreciated, especially from those who have lived the experience.

I am 17 and for the past 3 months I have become sexually active with my boyfriend. My mother (who has known from the start) is suggesting that I go and have my first check up with the Gynecologist, now I know what happens because I have spoken with my mother and read up on it numerous times, but I am absolutely petrified. My mother tells me that its painful and degrading but it must be done, whenever I read up on it or think about it I feel physically sick and go into a state of panic. It sounds silly because I know many women who say its just like another day out just not as pleasant, but no matter what I try I cannot make the appointment, I have so many fears running through my mind (mostly to do with my immense fear of pain and the whole nude thing.) that it just drives me into this silly panic attack where I just have to break down. I know it has to be done at some point (better sooner then later right?) but I just can't stand the idea of it.

Any idea how to get rid of my panic attacks and how i can get my butt into gear!?

Thanks xx Lady Bird

Peace and quiet, it's not rocket science, it's toughter.

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Have you read our article on this?

Your First Gynecologist Visit

It's like your regular dental checkup, not the world's greatest experience but something you have to do. In fact, many women prefer seeing a gyn to seeing a dentist.

I do not feel obliged to believe that the same God who has endowed us with sense, reason, and intellect has intended us to forgo their use.

- Galileo

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It's going to be scary before you go to your first GYN visit, but I highly disagree that it is 'Painful and Degrading'.

It is a bit uncomfortable, but in no way an excruciating ammount of pain or anything. It's something you must do if you are going to be sexually active so that you can protect yourself and be healthy.

It's normal to be nervous, but it really isn't so bad.

And to what bobolink said... I would pick a GYN checkup to the dentist anyday, I hate the dentist!

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I felt exactly the same way you do before I went for the first time. One thing that I think helped was that I asked the doctor if she could explain what she was doing when she did it. She was great at doing that, and her small talk made the whole thing go by a lot quicker. While some describe it as painful or scary, I would describe it more as just unusual...That's it. I don't know if I'm weird, but I had to keep from laughing when I thought about what would happen if I flinched when the speculum was in there. Anyways, after the whole process (which took about 5 minutes) you'll probably laugh at yourself for ever being petrified of it. Good luck!
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Lady Bird
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Thanks guys, thats really been loads of help, reading the link made me feel better because it had a more personal view, rather then other websites I have looked at where it just says what goes where and why.

Thanks again!

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Oh gee, lol. The gyno. It's really not bad at all. My first one was done in an emergency room in the hospital which was a TAD unpleasant because my doctor was in a hurry (can you say, cold??) and I also had a raging bladder infection. Ouch! But from then on, they are no biggie at all. I can't even really feel it anymore. So I am sure, especially if you are sexually active, then you will do just fine.
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