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sad_sad_lover
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Well. Today I has sex for my first time with a girl I've know for not so very long. We started off by simply being friends, and as the day carried on we got really close and eventually we started to get sexually close in some sense. One thing went into another, and eventually we were having sex. I had a condom on, and had ejaculated... but she insisted I keep going. Somehow she stopped me, and then I realized that the condom had slipped off. In a nervous state, we quickly removed it, and we were not sure if any of it was left inside. We looked up tips online, and quickly did as advised; such as peeing, and cleaning througly. I'm dead scared. I'm not ready to have a child or anything. She's only 17, and I'm 18... I just don't know what to do. Can anyone help me?
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Gumdrop Girl
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Go get EMERGENCY CONTRACEPTION. The incident happened today, so she can go to the hospital, her doctor's office, the health department or the pharmacist (I'm assuming you are in Fontana, CA) now or in the morning and get the medication.

btw, giving us city and state in your profile makes it a lot easier for us to help you.

more on EC: Not 2 Late: Emergency Contraception

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Gumdrop Girl
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btw, you are supposed to withdraw the penis after ejaculation while it is still hard, otherwise, you will have condom failure (as you have learned). review proper condom use in this article: A Simple Condom Primer, and then rehearse how you're going to say, "no, i have to pull out now" next time this comes up. otherwise, if you decide you can't handle an accident again, then strongly consider abstinence. Read this to gauge how ready you are to be doing this: Ready or Not? The Readiness Checklist

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sad_sad_lover
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Thank you so much. Actually, I was thinking about EC just a while ago. I really didn't know what to expect when the whole sex thing arouse. Would you happen to know how much the EC range from?
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Heather
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Generally, you're looking at $25-30 for the prescription, possibly more for exam fees. Nothing close to the cost of a child or an abortion.

For future reference? Whenever you find you're in over your head or things are moving too fast -- with anything, sex included -- you have the choice of slowing it down, asking for some time, talking about it. Sex with a partner is a conscious choice we make, not something that happens to us and is out of our control.


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sad_sad_lover
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I called Fontana Health Service today and asked about seeing a doctor for the EC exam. They told me that today the Fontana Health office is closed, and the closet office open is in another city. I don't drive, so I have to wait till Monday. I'm kinda scared. Isn't that cutting it too closed if it happen yesterday afternoon?
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Heather
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Yes, it is.

Your partner can go to ANY walk-in clinic, ER, a Planned parenthood clinic, or even just put a phone call into her regular doctor for the prescription. Do none of your friends or family drive?

And SHE should be doing some of this legwork as well.


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sad_sad_lover
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Well, I've already informed her about the situation and EC, and she's agreeing to it, but now that you say its cutting it too close I might as well just go to a hospital. But I'm wondering, will the hopsitals give prescriptions to her? She IS underage, and we definately would like her mother to find out. As for paying for all this junk, I've had to resort to pawning my valuables... but I'd rather lose precious things right now then let this come to fiasco hand.

[This message has been edited by sad_sad_lover (edited 05-14-2004).]


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Insane
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You are hitting on the dangerously close to EC not being an option. That being said. Payment arrangements can usually be made with the hospital to avoid having to pay for the visit all at once (prescriptions are another story). The important thing is to see a doc NOW and get the prescription. Gumdrop Girl even mentioned going to get it at a pharmacy. Your window of opportunity is closing, so if you want EC then you need to get the prescription!

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