I've been having some problems with my girl friend.(If she is my girl friend anymore, I seriously don't know right now.) She's a really independant person, which I think is what's really awesome about her, but i'm really dependant of her. So I feel like I don't get to spend any time or do anything with her and she feels I try to spend too much time with her. I asked her if she wanted me to give her some space, but she said no that she didn't want that. So it seems that i'm just depressed alot because I feel that she doesn't want to be around me when in fact that's probably not true. I just think about her all the time and I want to always be with her but she doesn't see us in a serious relationship. Tonight I told her how I felt and about how I feel that she doesn't care or she never suggests to do anything with me, I always have to be the one asking her to go places or hang out with me. We got in a big fight and she just kind of left and didn't want to deal with it right now. I have to see her tomorrow at school, but I don't know how I should aporach her.. I'm just really depressed, but I don't want to be. I think I have a serious problem about getting to attached with someone. I don't know what to do.
Well, I guess some people like their independence more than others... or it could be that she's got alot on her plate right now, and doesn't have too much time to make plans...or maybe she just doesn't want a relationship right now. You should try talking to her again maybe, and asking her what she wants out of your relationship. You might want different things. If you both talk about it, then you'll each know what the other likes or wants, and maybe things will go more smoothly. I've had the same problem in the past, and I talked to her about it, and now everything is alot better... so I guess that's really the only thing you can do - tell her how you feel. It might not go as well as you want it to, but at least she knows what you're feeling right? Good luck.
Posts: 61 | From: ON Canada | Registered: Dec 2003
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Look man, one lesson my big brother and his friend taught me, women are nothing but trouble when you become infatuated with them. My big brothers friend is now stuck with a kid and a crazy wife for the rest of his life because he wasn't careful with women.
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But the same could be said about men. Or dogs. Or bamboo trees. Sweeping generalizations are useless because they hold no practical applications to life; every situation is unique, and while caution is useful at times, there's no need to recommend someone give up on their girlfriend (or boyfriend, for that matter) just because "all women/men/beta fish are crazy".
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