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bwlgfe
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Well me and my boyfriend have been together for four years now and every since I got out of jr high and went to high school my bf wants to have sex I guess he thinks I'm older and mature now but I'm not that old.I mean I love him and all but but I don't want to lose my virginity now.I want to do it with him but I'm just not ready.Do you think I should do it with just to make him happy?
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-Jill
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Of course not.

Your feelings are just as valid as your partner's. If you're not ready, you're not ready. If he can't accept that I'd seriously consider ending the relationship.

However, why not try simply explaining things to him the way you did to us? It sounds like you really do care about him but simply aren't ready for sex right now and there's nothing wrong with that.

A few articles you may find helpful:
Ready or Not? - The Readiness Checklist
Safer Sex... For Your Heart
Ten of the Best Things You Can Do For Your Sexual Self (at any age)

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bwlgfe
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ookuotoe
Thank you for the imformation and the articles were helpful.

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You're quite welcome.
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