I am 15 years old, going on 16, and have no yet done ANYTHING with a boy. I haven't been kissed and all the other stuff. I feel as if I am the only person who hasn't been kissed because in school that's all the girls talk about. How many boys they dated,kissed, had sex with and even though it makes them sound like whores.. it makes me feel like a prude.
Because of me not doing anything yet, my mother has a tendency to call me gay... but that's not making me feel horrible, it just makes me realise what a closeminded person she is since she acts like being gay is wrong.
Alot of people haven't kissed people at 16. It's not a big deal, you don't have to have sexual experience to be happy or considered 'prude' or lower than these other girls who have had experience. Just wait until you're ready there's no rush to be experienced. And about your mom thinking you're gay, just say 'Hey mom, I'm not gay'. She can think what she wants but you know who you are.
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What you're describing is normal, but the way you're responding to others' experiences is offensive. You might want to just tell your mother she's making you feel uncomfortable, and that you find her judgement of your sexuality inapproriate.
------------------ Milke, with an L, SSBD, RATS, TMNTP
when you mention other girls sounding like whores for their choices... you don't sound like the normal girl who just hasn't kissed at sixteen, but someone with some issues. If boys is ALL your frinds ever talk about, find new, less single-minded ones ( I'n not saying ditch the old ones), maybe they arn't sinlgminded, you're just obsessing and hear what you want to hear, introduce other topics into the conversation which you feel more comfortable about and see what happens when you say, "and let's not talk about silly boys right now."
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