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Bradhadair
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I'm bi but havent come out yet. How do I tell my friends and family? Should I leave it a secret until i find a partner or what? I've always been very open but this is very hard, but at least I have admitted it to myself, now for stage 2...please help me anyone who's homosexual/bisexual who had to tell their family and friends.

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Daydreamer24
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Many people recommend waiting to tell your family until you have an "escape hatch". Read THIS thread where Dude_who_writes and others give good advice.

Also read The Bees and...the Bees - A Homosexuality and Bisexuality Primer and Don't Let the Door Hit You on the Way Out (Or: How to Come Out of the Closet Without Tripping Over the Laundry).

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illusionprincess
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I am bi-sexual, currently with the opposite gender. i didnt tell all of of my friends due to their beliefs and only my father offically knows i am bi, i have a step sister who is a lesbian so he took it well.(as long as i give him a grandchild)) i never told my mother but she thinks what she wants anyway. my family for the most part is very closed minded. i chose not to tell all of them in order to protect them. i do understand your problem though. follow your heart. you will make the right choice that is best for you.
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Bradhadair
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Thanx for the advice and links!

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