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This may seem a bit strange but I am 21 years of age and I still have to ask my parents if i can leave the house to go somewhere. I was only allowed to leave the house when I was 20, any time before then if I asked to leave I was cursed out by my father and fussed at.

I am beganing to realize that I am far too old to still be treated like a child. But I am still afraid to stand up for myself and I dont know what to do. I want them to treat me like a 21 year old and not a 12 year old.

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Not to be rude or anything but have you considered moving out??
Your an adult now so being 21 means legal age ANYWHERE!.....if your parents are still giving you a hard time about things like "leaving the house"for instance....maybe they are a little over protective. Maybe it's time you sit down with them and have an adult talk about what your status is. Make some guide lines but to have your parents still control you at 21 is a lil ridiculous. Maybe moving out on your own or standing up for yourself would be your best bet! good luck

p.s if things don't work out seeking a counsellor would help!

Patience is a virtue

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Really, the last poster had the imperative point: the easy answer -- and likely the best one -- is to move out on your own.

If that isn't possible yet, are you at least paying rent? In other words, if you're taking no responsibilities, it's not all that surprising you're being treated the way that you are.

Thing is, people can't just walk out of prisons, and they aren't kept in them by choice. Thus, if your home is a prison, sounds like it's one of your own design.

Heather Corinna
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Hey, buddy, I feel the same way- I know 10 year olds who have more freedom than I do. And I've been spoiled my whole life and through most of my teen years I kinda saw it as a trade off- they'll take care of me, pay for my stuff, do my laundry, and all I have to do is abide by their rules.

Well now I'm 17 and I absolutely can't stand it, but I've had enough time to realize it's about time to do something about it. I only make about $4,000 a year but I'm still in high school and next year I'm out.

Now, I understand that 21 is an age where you can still be struggling with college, and you might REALLY rely on them to let you live with them. But try taking a stand once in a while- the WORST they can do is kick you out.

I'm also sort of wondering if there isn't more to this- like a deep emotional problem at hand. I'm really not trying to put you down, but I think at 21 you should have the problem solving skills to deal with this kind of problem. So what's really up?

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