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shining eyes
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Well, this is going to sound rather stupid, but I really have this problem. I avoid any type of social event at all costs. Over the past, as far back as I can remember, I've been very shy around people I don't personally know. I have also had a history of bad depression. I can't even read a few sentences in front of my class without getting short of breathe and getting really hot, like my face is on fire. When I have to give a speech the anxiety just builds up and the night before is hell, I just can't sleep, and when the time comes to give the speech I shake and my legs feel like noodles and my hands can't even hold note cards I'm so shocked, most the time I even cry after I give a two minute speech. I just feel like everybody is watching me and as soon as I make a mistake everybody will laugh at me. Seriously, it's starting to get even worse than in just the class room. I have been invited to many parties (well, maybe four) over the past year. And I just can't make myself go--something embarrassing might happen.

And as an example of what happens.... One time we had to give this speech that we had been working on all year. It was the biggest grade on our report card and when it was my turn I got up there and just stood, I couldn't speak and my heart started beating really fast to the point I was gasping for air. It was really scary. I had to be taken out in the hall away from everybody else my teacher sent me home because she thought I was sick. Sorry if this is stupid.

Well, on the first day of school this year, my teacher said we were going to have to sing a song (some point of time this year) in front of the class, and I don't even know what to say to that! Sorry for rambling on... but I'm not sure if this is normal or not.

Thanks for reading this long boring post.

[This message has been edited by shining eyes because she can't spell or type (edited 12-02-2002).]

[This message has been edited by shining eyes (edited 12-02-2002).]

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Well, I'm not a clinician of any kind, but the symptoms you describe sound rather like social phobia, which is a type of anxiety disorder. Anxiety and anxiety-related symptoms can sometimes go along with depression, and there's nothing "stupid" about experiencing them.

However, you need to talk to a qualified therapist or doctor to find out what's up, and get the right support and treatment.

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There's nothing stupid about that. You do sound like someone describing a social phobia. You should go to your school counselor (or just a parent) and ask for help with it.
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I think it has a little to do with confidence girl! have a little confidence in yourself cos everyone is beautiful.

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i agree with what everyones posted so far:

1. it's not stupid
2. You really should try talking to someone
(although that might seem hard it cud really help)
3. confidence problem

what you need to do is realise that you and everybody else around you cannot be perfect. I had a similar problem in that i'm over weight and withing the first year of starting a new school i had to perform with my guitar and singing. I was nervous as heck but i did it (although they dragged me on stage) by knowing that i had friends out there. If anything it's about talking to people and communicating so that people understand. You're not the only one who feels this was i promise you.

talk to someone yeah?

rosie - the girl dreams are made of =)

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I know exactly how you feel! I have the same phobias as you do! I get really scared just to meet people. If I know I am going to have to be introduced to people I do not already know I will do anything to get myself out of that situation. I have a very hard time initiating conversations with people and I absolutely do NOT go to parties. So I totally understand where you are coming from. I hope things get better for you!
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