*discord* Sorry if this is an overly negative viewpoint, but... I used to go to a counselor for anger management problems. All was fine. Then a year or so later, I went to see her again, and she was more judgmental than she should have been. The first visit was fine, but after that I went home more depressed than I had been two hours earlier. She had disagreed from an adults-vs.-teens point of view, making me feel like an irresponsible person for kissing someone I liked. Guilt doesn't do much for someone who's already severely depressed.
To get to the point, seeing a counselor (at least in my case) is only a good idea if they don't make you feel guilty about your life.
------------------ "And if the answer isn't violence, neither is your silence" --Pop Will Eat Itself - Ich Bin Ein Auslander
i'm so glad to hear you had a good experience seeing a counselor. i'm going to find one myself as soon as i get back to school on monday. i've been depressed for awhile but it got really bad these past few weeks so i finally decided to take action and get help. my doctor gave me some medication but i also realized that just talking out all the stuff going on in my head made me feel so much better so i think i would benefit greatly from seeing a counselor.
of course, i'm a little hesitant that i might get someone who doesn't mesh well with me. but i know that it can't hurt to try and if one person doesn't work, i can try another.
quote:To get to the point, seeing a counselor (at least in my case) is only a good idea if they don't make you feel guilty about your life.
That's very true, I'm sorry your counsellor wasn't as good as he/she should have been.
Counsellors aren't supposed to be judgemental at all, they should just be there to listen and try to help, but if they are being judgemental, or are being rude or something, you should consider finding a different counsellor.
The reason why I feel counsellors are so good is because they aren't like a teacher, or a parent because you can't get 'in trouble' if you confess that you are doing something 'wrong' ie drugs or something... they are there just to try and guide you into the right path, I'm sorry Shenzie that your counsellor made you feel irresponsible for kissing someone... that was wrong of them, they are supposed to try and make you feel better about your self!
I got along really well with my counselor in middle school. She tried her best to inspire me, mostly because I slacked off far too much.
When I went to high school, I started seeing a professional outside of the school environment. The one I ended up seeing was nice, but then started bugging me about my homework. She was worse than my parents.
If you can find one that works for you, more power to you. They are amazing people and do wonders.
quote:Celery, I missed this post for a while, I'm so glad I found it. I've been worried for you and now I see you're getting some help and it's heading the right direction
Thanks so much, my counsellor has helped alot. I'm still grounded for getting caught with erm.. drugs which really made my parents mad and upset because it was less then a week after I got ungrounded for pretty much the same thing and swore that I wouldn't do it again.
I'm allowed out on weekends (yesterday was the first time I was allowed out) and I can honestly say I didn't do anything that I shouldn't do (drugs, drinking etc..) Even though I was offered it, I've been pretty strict with myself about it and have been sober for a bout a month now, which is a BIG step from before since I was smoking weed 4 or 5 times a day!
Well I thought I would just post an update on what's going on with me, since i'm not on here very often since i'm not allowed on the computer =[
But thanks for all your support guys, you've been great.
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