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I'm hoping to find someone else out there who has the same problem as I do... having wondered for years what was wrong, I finally (with some help from my very supportive, but rather frustrated boyfriend) got up the courage to go to a doctor about the problems I'd had - he said that I had vaginismus...

I don't know anyone else who's had the same problem - and I feel pretty uncomfortable talking about it in person - so I'd love to hear from anyone else who has the same problem (and how they - and their partners - are dealing with it), whatever the cause - anyone?

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From WebMD

(vaj´´î-niz´mus) painful spasm of the vagina due to involuntary contraction of the vaginal musculature severe enough to prevent intercourse; the cause may be organic or psychogenic.

I'm sorry to hear about that, Flic.
I'd never heard of it, but it seems like something that is not discussed enough.

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FBI Files: Vaginismus – AKA Painful Penetration

A little more info on vaginismus.

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Hey Flic.

Due to remembering past sexual trauma in college with a good deal of regularity, I had a spell of vaginismus. It's not easy, and it can be really frustrating and upsetting.

I found that what worked for me was simply having the patience to work with it and go very slowly when it came to any sexual activities. Dumping intercourse altogether for a few months -- and dumping the idea that I had to keep trying to make it work -- helped a lot. Sticking to manual and oral sex when it felt right, and gently, was what worked for me, and only when fairly rigourous manual sex felt good did I then start thinking about intercourse again.

Some folks find it's helpful to see a sex therapist who uses vaginal dilators slowly over time, though if the source is psychological, I'd highly suggest pairing that with good therapy. It's great that you have a partner there to support you who you can work through this with: it isn't a death sentence... vaginismus need not be a permanent condition.

Just take it slow. Very.

Heather Corinna
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Hey! I have the same problem. I just found out about it early this week, and I'm having a really stressful time dealing with it, and my boyfriend on top of it. What are good procedures to use, and does relearning to relax the muscles have to be only that or can we make it more fun and interesting? I'd like to think so, but... If you want to email me, I would like that. (Hannah at --edited--) I'd appreciate having someone to talk to about what we're going through and how to make it better!!

Note from Smurf: We ask that you do not post your email address here, for your own safety. You are, however, free to discuss this issue right here on the boards!

[This message has been edited by LilBlueSmurf (edited 01-31-2003).]

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