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toxicpisces
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I was wondering if there was anyone else out there whose parents are mentally ill. My father is bipolar and schizophrenic. He's a good person, but this is really hard for me to deal with, and I've never met another person in my situation.
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Bobolink
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There are support groups in Illinois for family members of a mentally ill person. the one I have found is http://www.namidupage.org/support/coping_tips.html . I don't know enough Illinois geography to relate Dupage County with Wheaton. However, they may be able to refer you to help close by.

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toxicpisces
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Wheaton happens to be the DuPage County Seat.

I should take back my statement about never meeting anyone else with a mentally ill parent. My father has been hospitalized more than once, and our family went to the support groups there. To me, it really seemed to be a waste of time. That's why I thought finding someone online for me to talk to might be more beneficial


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Aria51
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My father is mentally ill. When I was in elementary school, he had a complete breakdown. Without going into specifics, because it's hard to think about, he threatened to harm my entire family. As a result, he spent a long time in a mental hospital.

He's on medication now, has been for quite a few years, and is doing better. I still find myself afraid of him at times for the things he said, but as much as I used to be. He'll still get a little "crazy" sometimes and call us, ranting and raving about something or other. Then he'll call back and say how sorry he is, and how much he misses us.

It's hard to deal with. This person is supposed to be my parent, someone stable, but he's not. Our relationship changes from day to day, swinging from cold to lukewarm.

So, yeah. I think I sorta know how you feel. It sucks at times, but I'm glad he's getting help.


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Michelle Jessie
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Toxicpieces~it's so funny that I stumbled across your post as I was just about to post about the same thing! My father has struggled with Bipolar Disorder his whole life and it's getting much worse. (I have Bipolar Disorder as well so I know what's he going through). He mostly manic at the moment and our family psychiatrist is precribing him on all the wrong meds by trial and error.

Is mania the problem here or mostly depression? I have mostly depression and my dad is manic. He took his first drink of alcohol in 23 years 2 weeks ago and almost got into an accident. You have to listen to me when I say HE WOULD NEVER HAVE DONE THIS IN A MILLION YEARS. Last night he told me that I was ruining his life because he had a phone call in the middle of his favorite TV show and I was the one to hand him the phone. All in all, I know what you're going through and let me know if you want to talk about this furthur, I'm here for you.


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toxicpisces
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my father leans very heavily to the manic side, although occasionally he'll suffer the physical effects of depression. ironically, i suffer only from depression, and severe anxiety.

it's hard to deal with the unpredictablity of my father. a little over a week ago, he was having some trouble. he decided that it was because of his antipsychotic medication, and the way to fix it was to stop taking it all together! so naturally, he went into a full blown schizophrenia for a few days. this is the only time in my life i've ever seen him like that, he's usually a lot more careful about his medication. and technically, he's only schizo-effective bipolar, so you rarely see the schizophrenia.

it's so hard feeling like i am the one parenting my father...


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