I'm sorry you're having a hard time right now. I know a lot of people can identify with what you're going through.
First of all, I'm a little unclear about your home situation. It seems like you are blaming the fact that you don't often see your dad on the fact that you were molested. But it seems from your post that the real reason you don't see your dad is because your parents are divorced, hon.
That can be hard. Your dad may feel guilty about getting divorced, and he may also feel guilty about not having prevented the abuse or protected you. Maybe he feels really bad, too, and has a hard time dealing with that.
As to your boyfriend, you're probably lashing out at him because you're angry. And if being molested isn't enough reason to be angry, having the guy get off would understandably make you angry, too.
It really sounds like you need some help, someone to talk to. Do you know how to start that process? You need to go to your GP and ask for a referral for counselling. In the meantime, you can call Childline and they can also help you - they can be someone to talk to, and help you find some resources. Their website is at http://www.childline.org.uk/factsheets/child1.htm and the number is right at the top. It's free to call, although you might have to call a few times. Just keep trying.
Counselling can help you work through your anger and work through what happened, and can help you talk to your dad about your current situation.
Please know that a lot of people have been where you are, and come through it with hard work. It's painful and miserable sometimes, but you can get control of your life back... honestly.
Hope this helps,
[This message has been edited by DarlingBri (edited 11-07-2001).]