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i am 13 years old and on new year's eve when it was turning 2001. I was molested by my father. He touched me in my kitchen witth my mother sleeping on the couch. It was 4 in the morning. I told my dad i was going to bed. Then he came in my room and told me he was sry. I 4gave him and wondered to myself why i had not cried. Then my father came in my room 4 the 2nd time. and he molested me all over again. i told my mom when she woke up. that is when i finally cried. My father haad been drunk & my mom found him on the toilet barfing. I don't love my father nemore. i pretend 2 4 my mom 7 my sister and lil brother. but he has taken away my childhood and i need help. I need 2 talk about this. that is why i am posting this. i am only 13 & can't do this on my own. I have told 3 friends 2 of them know who it was that did this 2 me. but it's awkward 4 them. I think they don't know if i want 2 talk about. But please help me. I need it.
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I am glad you feel that its time to get help. As you said this is something that is very hard to work through on your own. This is a very good place to get your situation out in the open. And the people here will do what they can to help you. But you really need to discuss this with someone who can really be there to help you. A trusted adult, a family member, a clergyman, school guidance counselor are all good places to start. Its easier for them to be there when you need them and they can do more to help than just give support. Though support is something that will really help a lot. It takes time and effort to work through molestation. Its not an easy task but you can do it. Hope this helps.


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Excellent advice, Rio

redhead, you never did say if you're mom is supportive to you ... ?? If she is, she may be able to help you sort out some of your feelings. It's also not uncommon for her to be feeling torn b/w her husband/partner and her daughter. I would suggest help for everyone in that household, as this not only affects you, but everyone else in some way or another.

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And whatever happens, make sure you know that you're not alone in this situation. There are tons of people just like you going through the same thing who want to get help. You've taken the first step by asking what to do, and you're on your way.

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My stepsister got molested, and she has been traumatized ever since. This happened about 7 yrs ago too.

The worst thing she did not do was get help. Honestly, I think the best thing to do is to go to a counsellor once you told someone you can trust. They can help you work thru it!

Good luck! Im sure things will work out fine!!! Be strong!

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