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loveable_me16
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Hi
I have been having some very intence dreams lattly and are of a very erotic nature. I know everyone has fantasy dreams but these seem to be more intence and are about my best friend and myself. I am 16 and she is 18 and we have been friends for ever and we are both very close and talk about everything.
With out going into details The dreams are about My best friend and my self engaging in sexual acts.
Could someone tell me if this dream means that i may be eather Bi or a lesbian or are they just fantasys.
Can some one give me a little advice Please.

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ErinK
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If I dream about cooking a large meal, does that make me a chef?

Seriously, though, dreams are just that --- dreams. Your brain is making up some stories to tell you while it does its processing work, and when they're erotic stories, you often get the physical reactions that accompany them.

Now, if when you're awake, you are having sexual or romantic feelings for your friend, then yeah, you might want to start thinking about what those feelings might be telling you.

Labels work better on jars than on people. If you don't feel that you identify as bisexual or lesbian, then it's probably not the right label for you.

erin


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Lin
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*grins* at Erin.

Everything Erin said is true honey. You might also like to check out this fab article.

The Bees and the Bees


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loveable_me16
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I understand what you say Maybe it's because i would like to do something with her. but don't know how to begin. In the dreams everything happens smothly but in reality !!! so maybe im asking what do i do I think thats what i need help with. Going up to a guy is easy but going up to anouth girl....

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You know, what's the difference with going up to a girl and a guy?

I fail to see any. Just spend more time with her maybe let her know casually that you have been having feelings for her. Feelings stronger than friendship and see how she reacts.


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Well i did it I told her what i was feeling and about the dreams. We had a mega talk all night and it ended up with a kiss not a peck on the cheek a real kiss YAY JUMPING around :) sorry
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Late, as usual, but hey...

That is great news, hon.
One thing which I wanted to say was that I could understand your nervous feelings about approaching your friend--if only because to do so you have to admit to yourself what you feel, which can take a while (it certainly took me quite some time), but I think, and I think you now know, that if you want something bad enough then all of those insecurities and anxieties sort of pale before it and you just bite the bullet. And you did and it worked. You go!

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Just wanted to say thanks for the advice and to let you know things are mooving quickly and i love it

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