Are you abstinent or celibate right now? That isn't always so easy to do, but if it's what you want with a little support, you can swing it.
Posts: 68290 | From: An island near Seattle | Registered: May 2000
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I guess I'll be the first to reply to this. Well, I plan on "abstinence" (that word does kind of bug me) until I'm married. Most modern people think that's a crock, but that's what I plan on. And I'm not going about it blindly, if I were going to make out with some guy somewhere, I would take condoms with me. Because you just never know. Carrying protection doesn't make someone a "slut". Hey, maybe you can lend it to a friend if he/she is in dire need.
I just don't think I need to be having sex. I mean, I just don't need one more stress in my life. Having to deal with all the responsibilities of sex... *shudder* Not for me yet.
i agree with Mophead...but i instead of marriage, i plan on waiting for Love. Sex is the act of making love and to do the act, i think that you must feel the emotion, right? i mean, i'd like to believe that sex, making love, whatever you'd like to call it is so much more when you DO love your partner. I will, when the time is right and i am in love and ready for the responiblities and concequences, good or bad. call me old-fashioned, but sex is definatly something i CAN wait for.
Posts: 72 | From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada | Registered: Jul 2000
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I remember being 13 years old and thinking that i was going to wait till i was married to have sex. (that was before i realized i was bi, btw) I'm 16 and i'm not exactly sure what a virgin actually is anymore- because i haven't done much to talk about with a guy but i recently had sex (in my definition) with my girlfriend even though i actually haven't eaten her out yet. I don't think i could sleep with a guy before i'm married (if i ever GET married...) just because of all the other risks like (a bigger risk of) stds and of course pregnancy (though as i wrote in another post in body+soul, i doubt the latter is going to be an issue for me). So-anyway- i've come to this conclusion: do what feels right to you and always be smart about it. Sex is a big deal but if it's with the right person and you're "too young" by the older generations standards, don't let that stop you. I love being able to show my feelings for my girlfriend through pleasing her and i think she feels the same way about her intamicy with me. So- heck if i know if i'm a virgin or not anymore- but i don't care either. I've been dating my GF for 7 months now and we both are very close (yes, we've had rough times but i feel so attatched to her now).
I really don't like the word "virgin". So confining. I don't think my "virginity" is such a huge deal. I just know that I don't want to have sex with a partner at this time. I don't see a reason to add one more stress to my life right now. Having to worry about condoms, lubes, blah blah blah... I'd rather just jill off and be done with it.
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