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So, I'm a freshman in high school. We can get over that now... [Smile]

I'm new to the whole high school dance thing. At the dances, a lot of grinding goes on. I enjoy it, and I do it at the dances, of which there have been three. My question is- Is it acceptable for a guy to pop a boner while grinding? What do girls think of that? Is it a complement? What's the deal? It's happened to me before and they seem to not mind it, so I keep going... that's why I enjoy it so much. Grinding is exciting in more ways than one.

I'm not going to put too much thought into this.

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Heya [Smile]
Well this is a wide question and you cant really awnser it directly as EVERY woman is different [Smile] Now i personally, and a few of my friends, don't mind if a man was to get erected while grinding, grinding is a very intimate dance style, you just carry on and its kind of a complement that the guy likes it. Now if a girl doesnt like it, she's likely to just walk away or so. I wouldn't be to fussed if i were you, just dance and have fun.

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I agree with rollerchick, if someone didn't like it they probably a) wouldn't grind in the first place, or b) would somehow get themselves out of the situation once your erection became evident. Personally, before I'd gotten up close and personal with a penis on my own, I probably wouldn't have recognized the feeling of an erection. I myself would have been flattered, but I have at least one friend who is absolutely not OK with the idea and doesn't like to grind as a result.
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There are definitely some women who wouldn't feel comfortable with that--my suggestion would be to not hold them tightly at all if this happens. That way, if they are uncomfortable, they can easily move further away.

You can always ask the girl you're dancing with "Are you having fun?" to make sure she's okay with it, too.

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