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Carley
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I'm sorry if this topic has already been posted before, but it just makes me so angry that people are fighting against same-sex marriage, all because it's "unholy" or "wrong" or whatever word they're using to describe it now...

I fight with my stepdad all of the time because he doesn't "get" why people "want" to have same-sex marriages. He thinks marriage is supposed to be between a man and a woman, and basically says that people who are in same-sex relationships need to suck it up.

Yet he's all for two girls making out.

WTF.

It just makes me so unbelievably mad when people throw hissy fits about same-sex marriage. Seriously, what does it matter? Why do they even care if a man and a man, or even a woman and a woman, are married to each other? Just because a bigot might think that God will rain hellfire and brimstone on all "unholy" couples doesn't mean we all feel that way.

Seriously, why do people care? Why do they all get their collective panties in a bunch and get all hissy about two people of the same sex holding hands or kissing or even (the horror! /sarcasm) having a sexual relationship?

Sorry for my anger at the end there; this just has been burning like bile in my throat for a long time now.

Answers, opinions, anyone?

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Heather
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Not a whole lot to say, primarily because I've been mad about this for somewhere in the neighborhood of thirty years (to a degree: I personally don't think marriage should be legal for anyone in the sense that I don't think the law should be part of marriage, full-stop). [Frown]

I also really can't speak to the rationale or mindset of homophobic people much, save to say that bias is generally in and of itself irrational, and doesn't hold up well to rational thought, so looking for strongly biased people to think rationally or be consistent in their opinions is often asking a whole lot.

But to be honest, I'd not put a lot of emotional energy into an adult man who's all about watching girls get down, but doesn't see women who partner with women as human beings worthy of equal rights. In other words, this clearly just isn't someone you can likely expect to make any headway with.

We have a handful of topics on this, though, if you want to discuss or dig further:

http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather/2008/07/18/marriage_the_only_right_choice_for_everyone_well_except_for_you_and_you_and_
http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather/2007/07/28/dear_new_york_times
http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/8/t/001291.html#000004
http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/15/t/000585.html#000001
http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/16/t/000209.html#000000

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Carley
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Thank you Heather...I know I can't really get anywhere with him (he's been part of the family for thirteen years now and has always been like this). I'll definitely check out those links you gave me - thank you!

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