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What do you guys think? Is this really just an alternative life-style? Or is this an abusive relationship?

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They sound quite happy in it.

Can't say I find the idea attractive personally. I'd rather be thought of as a 'person', than a 'pet'. The idea of the lead as something to signify trust is a bit OTT as well - it's not merely a symbol, but a physical restriction!

(I'm surprised this was on the BBC news!)

' I don't go anywhere without Dani. ' Hmm... would you like a partner who you were with 24/7? I can't imagine wanting that with anyone. A bit of personal space is natural, surely?

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Eh, I saw it. And I've seen lots like it around town.

I think it's only abusive if she finds something wrong with it, and she doesn't seem to. After all, lots of BDSM activities could be seriously abusive or border on assault weren't it for consent, so we can't go deciding what is and isn't abusive on a consenting partner's terms.

That said, their relationship seems to be moving awfully fast and have a lot of possessiveness. This paired with her age inclines me to think it's just a phase.

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I'm not sure why this made the news, either- surely there are more important things in the world.

I'm one of those "live and let live" people when it comes to circumstances like these when both people proclaim happiness at the situation. Could it be abuse? Sure. But so could any relationship that isn't "alternative."

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I think it's just an alternative lifestyle. Both appear to be consenting adults, and some people enjoy being thought of as a 'pet'. To be honest, I wouldn't mind it much myself as long as I knew that my partner really did love and respect me.

The way I see it, things like this often tend to be sort of game between couples and as long as both are playing by the rules there's not a problem.

It seems like making it a news story would only make them feel more like the odd ones out instead of informing people of the discrimination they may or may not face day-to-day. I don't see the big point the article was trying to make.

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Seems to me that this is kind of a two-different-discussions issue.

In other words, it's one discussion to talk about how healthy 24/7 BDSM relationships -- or 24/7 relationships where any two people must play any given one role -- may or may not be (and even most BDSM practitioners and activists tend to agree that they don't tend to be).

But it's something else to talk about what is and isn't allowable when we're talking about public places, like a bus, and denials of public services.

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I do want to apologize if I came off sounding like I was against BDSM or somehow discriminating against it. I have nothing against BDSM relationships. I even like to have some BDSM fantasies, none of which I've made real though because I haven't found someone I trust enough to do those things with. What bothers me about this is the idea of being someone's "pet" 24/7 and all that is implied by that. Perhaps because of my past relationships, I'm more inclined to be terrified of that kind of 24/7 relationship. Basically, it's the 24/7 part that bothers me. It doesn't seem healthy at all.

Listen, strange women lyin' in ponds distributin' swords is no basis for a system of government. Supreme executive power derives from a mandate from the masses, not from some farcical aquatic ceremony.--Monty Python and the Holy Grail

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Let them do what they want. As long as they aren't asking me to join what's it hurting. Her skin is so light that you would be able to see marks if he was hurting her.
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