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oOo Lea oOo
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I have a friend who's boyfriend is constantly wanting to "ride around" late at night so they can find a secluded area to have sex in his vehicle. They can't seem to find a way to have time alone at his place or hers.

I have talked to her about this, and she shows concern but does as he wishes because she wants the special time alone with him. I am worried that they will get caught. What I'm asking is . . What are the consequences in the state of West Virginia if a couple is found having sex in a vehicle in the woods or on the side of a deserted back road?

Would an incident like this be classified as indecent exposure? Would they be fined? Warned? Sent to jail? What are the consequences? Any information would be helpful. I've read sites but I haven't found anything that has made sense. I think they could be more responsible about where they spend their personal time. I know it isn't my business, but I don't want to visit my best friend in jail or have her be humiliated by reading her name in the paper with an article about the incident on the first page.

Any replies would be greatly appreciated.

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Heather
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Honestly, I'd be more worried about her personal safety than about the law.

For certain, sex in public places really isn't lawful anywhere in the states, and a car parked in a public place counts. So, there is a legal risk.

But I'd say a bigger concern is them being seen by somebody creepy or predatory. People make some pretty weird assumptions about sexually active young people, especially young women, and lots of adults have very strong feelings about it. Suffice it to say, not all of those adults are well-adjusted people. And being out alone in a totally isolated area period isn't so smart, let alone having sex there.

(So nice to see you around again, Lea!)

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oOo Lea oOo
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Thanks. I didn't even think about that part. It gives me the creeps, honestly. I've spoken with her about this situation several times, but I can only be concerned. I can't make her choices. Although sometimes, for her sake, I wish I could.

And it's nice to be back around!

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And I say thank you for the scars
And the guilt and the pain
Every tear I've never cried
Has sealed your fate.
Did you take me for a fool
or were you just too blind to see
that every effort made has failed
and there is no destroying me?
Atreyu

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Heather
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For sure, you can only let her know you're concerned. You could also perhaps ask her -- as sensitively as possible -- why it is her boyfriend isn't concerned: that is something she might want to be thinking about. If he's not concerned, or is just blowing off concerns, he may simply be putting his desire for sex ahead of her (and his) safety, and that's pretty lousy and not at all "special."

But yep: other than that, it's her call, and the best you can do is just to be her friend, watch out for her in the ways that you can, and let her make her own calls knowing that if she makes a poor choice with a bad consequence, you do know you can be there for her to support her.

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oOo Lea oOo
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I have asked her why he doesnt seem to be concerned. He thinks my concern is me being paranoid, and as long as he feels safe about it, they won't get caught. Thats usually when something happens . . at the moment you least expect it. Thanks for the replies, btw.

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And I say thank you for the scars
And the guilt and the pain
Every tear I've never cried
Has sealed your fate.
Did you take me for a fool
or were you just too blind to see
that every effort made has failed
and there is no destroying me?
Atreyu

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daisuke
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If they really want some quality alone time I would suggest they maybe rent a hotel room or something like that for a night. Its much safer (and comfortable) than a car.
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And a hotel room would be an excellent suggestion for adults. But seeing how hotel managers/desk people can be held accountable for illegal sex acts like prostitution or underage sex taking place under their watch depending on state, most will be compelled to report.

Besides, if they aren't 18 or have a credit card, they'll be hard-pressed to find one, anyway.

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daisuke
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Hmm thats true, I just assumed that oOo Lea oOo friends were over 18 coz I saw her birth date was 1985.
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