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isabelle
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my bf is really upset cause now that hes actually had sex all the things he worried about are completely opposite for him, i notice this with alot of guys and i'm frankly getting pissed

premature ejaculation: he was so freakin scared of being one of the guys who did that that he TRAINED himself during masturbation to last longer and now he lasts way too long this is a problem i notice alot with guys and I'm here to say DONT WORRY ABOUT THAT just freakin have sex!

penis size: I'm asian and so if a guy has a big penis or even a 5 incher its like WOAH DONT HURT ME! all this nonsense about the size matters etc etc grrr I get so mad cause my bf is HUGE to me and it hurts later cause of it, size is rarely an issue and if it is its usually if hes too BIG and the girls too small!

I hope I helped some guys out here cause this issue is driving me and my bf crazy...its so cute how he feels so WRONGED by the propaganda...anyways, thats my rant

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logic_grrl
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penis size: I'm asian and so if a guy has a big penis or even a 5 incher its like WOAH DONT HURT ME!

It's cool that you want to fight propaganda, but for the record, race doesn't have any effect on the size of your vagina.

If you're experiencing pain during or after intercourse, then your best option is to use extra lube and make sure you're extra aroused before trying penetration - that will help whatever the size of your boyfriend's penis.

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isabelle
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ok well I geuss I didnt term that well: I'm very small down there due to both sides of my family being small statured and so penis size isnt a problem for me

theres nothing wrong with intercourse for me I was just being dramatic

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Djuna
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Well, it's great to hear someone come out and say that. Because every guy does worry about these kinds of things at some point in his life. Believe me - I've been there. [Smile]
Thanks so much for saying all this.

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wobblyheadedjane
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Regardless of gender, I think it's a little demeaning to someone to call things they take issue with in society and the media 'cute.' I've definitely had people (generally older men, but not necessarily) think its cute that I find a particular celebrity sends a bad message to teens, or that a new song is perpetuating misogyny, and I have to say, it's pretty irritating.

If your partner is coming to terms with things that used to be givens for him (bigger penis is better, lasting longer is better) and finding them not to be true, yeah, it's going to take a bit of time for him to fully grasp that. I think the same is true for a lot of women who discover that things are different then they expected after having sex, especially intercourse. This could be a jumping off point as something you could talk through together, and maybe come up with a game plan for communicating expectations and realities about having sex?

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isabelle
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we have very good communication...sorry if I have different use of words I just talk that way I dont "demean" people I'm very respectful of others; my tone doesnt translate through the text so its hard for anyone to know exaclty what I'm trying to get across or if I'm solemn or careless sounding

I didnt expect to be psycoanalyzed so much on here or so offensive to everyone else, I wont bother you guys, I just wanted to see if anyone else related or agreed but instead its all about my problems so it isnt so fun to post anything on here if I have to draw out things that arent even conflicts between me and my bf. thank you for youre input

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