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din007
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Man...sex ed sUcKd in our school (developin country with stone age values on sex)...! ok maybe the stone age values are pretty cool since we hardly have any cases of teenage or unplanned pregnancies. I never had a guy till i was 18 and wow...it really opened up feelings and desires in me which really was undestandable. but still, we arnt even allowed to have our guys into our house. my parents pretend that i'm the saint with no guy and im sure by the time i hit 24 the'll be bugging me to get married. (ARGH!) ...i always wonder..Why we cant have sex? i guess it is a personal choice. but everything in society tells us thats its taboo. noone discusses it and if a person falls pregnant "she's feeling sick' is the answer. my school was full of lesbians (the passing phase thingy) coz guys were soo hard to find. and even if you do, they were labeled the 'scarlet woman'. maybe this is the direct result of segregation...hm..
ryt after meeting my guy it was a wild wild ride of crazy adventures (sexual hehe) exept the 'real' deal of course....sighs....
so anyway i guess this is kind of a rant agaisnt our stupid culture....ok mayb not so stupid but oh-so-frustratingggggggggggggg....arghh..ok im calm :)but in a way, u know...TLW..hm...aand i dont mind waiting for the right person...but the wait...wow..sux..sigh...
so here i end my views,
yours faithfully,
The puritan [Wink]

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Welcome to Scarleteen!

We ask that during your stay here, you post in proper English. This includes grammar and punctuation: it makes it easier for everyone to read, and increases the chances of someone responding to your post.

That said, your post asks an interestinq question of sexual education in different countries. The base of our users hail from the United States, Canada, and various European countries. Because of that, we're fairly well versed in how the various countries approach sexual education.

This is an opportunity to open a dialogue about sexual education outside of our main user base. What sort of things were you taught? After reading through the main page articles and the forums, what sort of discrepencies have you found? For comparision, what are the STD rates and pregnancy rates for your country?

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cool87
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quote:
sex ed sUcKd in our school
At least you had sex ed. To be frank, I've never had it n school and I use to have those high biology classes but actually we didn't talk a lot about sex.We talked more about our sexual organs, how they were working, women's period but we didn't talk about contraceptives or things like that.

The only time we had sex ed last about one hour. It was when I was about 11 and we had a nurse come in our class to explain us what puberty was and what changes occur in that period. We didn't learn to have safe sex nor how to use a condom nor how to protect ourselves.

So really, consider yourself lucky to have had sex ed even if it was not great. At least, you learned some things that I didn't had chances to learn at that time.

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Djuna
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Well, sex ed in the UK sucks too. That's actually a bit inaccurate to be honest: it doesn't suck, it just doesn't exist.
All they do is teach the girls in Year 7 about how to use a tampon, and teach us about what the various types of contraception are in one 45-minute lesson. Not how to use them mind, just what they are. Oh, and the 'Rhythm Method' or menstruation charting is advocated as effective and allowed, along with abstinence (Catholic school [Wink] ).
We covered what STIs are, and we were told it was vital that we stay protected with 'barrier contraception', although we were left oblivious to the fact that this included oral sex.
And I wouldn't be surprised if there were some guys (not to mention girls) who don't know how to put a condom on.
As for biology and RE! They basically shift responsibilty on each other! I was horrified when my biology teacher, in response to a question about contraception, said 'you'll have to ask the RE department, I'm not sure how much I'm allowed to say.' Basically, because it's a Catholic School, they can only recommend contraception implicitly.
In addition, abortion teaching is heavily pro-life, as it is forbidden by the Church to acknowledge the pro-choice point of view. I personally am pro-life, but I will accomodate anyone else's opinion (even if it was my girlfriend who was considering an abortion, ie with my baby).
How many more lives will the Catholic Church ruin before they allow contraception? Or at least some kind of sex education? Miz S, could we send them a petition too?
Just in case a priest ever yells at you, by the way, say 'sex' and you'll get a 10 second head-start. Say 'condom' for 15. [Wink]

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echomikeromeo
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Even in California, supposedly one of the most liberal states, sex ed is nothing to write home about. You can't even call it "sex ed", really. Contraception ed, yes. STD ed, yes. Puberty ed, yes. Pregnancy ed, yes. But not sex ed. Would that we had a school programme that would actually teach us what sex was about - and not just sex-that-gets-you-pregnant, but oral sex and anal sex and all that good stuff too.
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