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CasualSex
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So is it wrong. Personally I say no, but one of my friends told me that he thought it was and we got in a huge fight. I have ben involved in casual sex for about 6 months now and out of the 7 or 8 women I have been sleeping with, on many occasions 2 at the same time, we are all much much closer friends now. Please post me your opinions.
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dailicious
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No, casual sex really isn't wrong more than any other form of casual sex is wrong.

It certainly may not be the right thing mentally or physically for all people, but that certainly doesn't make it wrong.

I will bring up, though, that a good number of people, especially younger people, are not yet prepared for all of the consequences and responsibilites of single partnered sexual relationships, let alone those with multiple partners and without some sort of comittment to them beyond a sexual means. Again, this becomes an issue of what is right for some but not for others.

There are a number of people who lead happy, healthy sexual lives engaging in casual sex, anonymous sex, sex with multiple partners, etc. These people are all (for the large part) adults, however, and have come to terms with, accepted, and understood what their own sexual boundaries are and how to communicate those boundaries safely with other people.

Casual sex relationships take a great deal of understanding for ALL parties involved, which means a good establishment of communication amongst all partners (meaning you aren't with a single partner who doesn't know and is okay with the fact you have also or do also have any other number of partners, and what BOTH your intentions in begining a sexual relationship are) as well as being doubly vigilent about STI screenings and latex barriers.

In a monogomous relationship, compared to casual sexual relationships or polyamoury, there is much less risk of STI transmission as long as both partners receive regular full STI screenings than in a sexual lifestyle where more than one partner is involved.

So again, I stress that while no aspect of casual sex relationships are wrong, there are just more factors to take into consideration as far as boundaries, communication, emotions, and sexual health safety go as you add more partners. The majority of younger people, as well, are simply not ready to take on that responsibility or to understand how to balance it and make sure it is all taken care of correctly. Teens and younger adults newer to sexual activity, especially, may still not completely understand how they feel toward being sexual activity, and it can be a large step to become sexually active with ONE partner and do so emotionally and physically safely. Since this site caters more to teenagers and young adults, I'm just trying to keep that point highlighted.

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ax50607
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dalicious, i completely agree with you. i think that was wonderfully expressed. do you mind if i show what you wrote to some of my friends?
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dailicious
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Why thank you, I'm really flattered that you want to show what I wrote to some friends to help express the topic, and of course I don't mind! This forum is open to the public, and to whomever it can help. [Smile]

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