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fluffypink
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watching sex makes me very uncomfortable. i watched the movie 'brown bunny' last night and there was a'scene' (which was a good 5 mins long) where this guys girlfriend was giving him a blow job, had it been implied i doubt i would have been bothered by it but it made me feel very uncomfortable, as every other sex scene has made me feel through the course of my life. im 19 - i feel as though im too old to be bothered by these things, and i dont understand exactly why they disgust me so much --- does anyone else feel this way (and do you know why) or am i a very lone case?


i am very comfortable with my own body and have a bf of 2 years who i have been having sex with regularily.. but it seems the more explicit sex in tv and movies becomes, the less i desire sex and the less aroused i get.


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Heather
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Well, you've also reported that currently, you feel you have to have sex more often with your partner than you're comfortable with. And that's really likely to be a big part of feeling sexually oversaturated, as it were.

That notwithstanding, everyone has different boundaries and comfort levels when it comes to media, whether it's about sex, about violence, about politics, what have you. You'd hardly be the the first person in the world who is uncomfortable with explicit sex onscreen -- and often, when you're with company or in a group, that adds extra factors -- and that's not about age so much as it is about personality, life experience and simple preferences.

In other words, no, you're not alone, plenty of peole feel that way, and it's just as okay to NOT like seeing explicit sex in media as it is to like it or be comfortable with it. It's a pretty complex matter.

However, you get to choose what you watch, so if you know a certain type of media has a detrimental effect on your sex life or your feelings, then by all means, opt out.

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