Sorry if this is in the wrong place, move it if you like.
Anywayz, as a girl I've always felt that most guys like the same type of girl. I'm sure that isn't true but It's hard to fathom anything else. I've always felt that guys want a girl that is 5'5 with nice skin that weighs a hundred pounds. Yet, it always makes me mad when a guy thinks all girls want a guy that is 6'0,160lbs,with a six pack and huge biceps. So my question is what do you guys really want?!?! I know the answers will vary but I'm curious to see the diversity. Thanks for the imput!
My ideal guy is 5'6", big-nosed, and has the cutest butt ever. (And yes, I'm female, but why not make this topic open to all people of all orientations?) It's not like I always knew I'd want someone exactly like that, but life isn't like Tiger Beat, and it's not always the Jonathan Brandises of the world who turn out to be the smart, loving, and generally wonderful people we want to end up with.
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Since the question was geared towards guys, I asked my boyfriend. Obviously he's biased, since he's not gonna say his ideal girl is the complete opposite of me =) But he said that the guys he knows don't necessarily prefer girls who are super-thin. They are impressed by girls with some muscle on their bones. I had always felt that I looked best when I was 12 pounds lighter (when I was 16 or so), before I really started being serious about hockey... yet my boyfriend says I was too skinny then and that he definitely prefers me now. I'm right in the middle of the weight range for my height (though I don't trust height/weight calculators...how do they know how much muscle I have??)
As for what I look for in a partner...it's never really mattered. I've dated a wide variety of body types, though they were mostly tall. I guess what I mean is, I don't pick out all the guys who are a specific height and weight and choose from there...I find the guys I enjoy being with and see what comes of it. I tend to like people who are athletic, since I love sports. It gives us common ground. So, I guess I like guys who are in shape, regardless of whether that's at a weight of 160 or 180 or 200 or 220, and so on.
I failed to mention what I like. I like a guy between 5'6-6'0 with a smaller stomach but not skinny at all, nice shoulders,nice teeth, and nice eyes. I can't say I've dated one guy that had all those qualities but they had at least one.
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My guy determined some time ago that he is attracted to Asian girls, even though his two ex's were not Asian - go figure. (He's Jewish, and I'm Asian....typical interracial couple) He also told me that he is attracted to short girls (5'2"ish, I'd wager), and judging by his fondness for the female breast, girls with some bust. Hehe. I guess it's ironic that most people don't end up falling for their ideal partner, but 1 out of 3 ain't too far off. (I'm 5'6" - only 2" shorter than he is and almost flatchested)
I don't think most guys would attracted to super-thin girls - my bf has commented that he misses the tummy that I lost this summer due to inexplicable weight loss. (I was on the lower range of normal for my height and I mysteriously lost 10 lbs or so, which I have to gain back so my hipbones don't stick out...)
And, who really knows if there's any correlation between the kind of girl guys are initially attracted to and the girl they end up with. I was talking to one of my bf's galpals about how I wanted to be shorter (when all my life I'd been trying to catch up to my dad's height ) so he'd become more attracted to me and she commented, "It just catches his eye." It doesn't mean that he'll look specifically for a short busty Asian girl to date. Attraction is just that - attraction. Most guys probably don't even notice all of the things we girls obsess about. For example, my bf looked at my cheek (and stroked it) one time and told me I had perfect skin. I laughed my head off. I don't remember what it's like having clear skin, since I've had consistent acne since the fourth grade. The coloring has improved a lot, which I think he was commenting on, but still, how could he have missed all those pimples?
As for me, the guys that first "catch my eye" are the tall skinny ones, and I'm not sure why. (Neither of which describes my bf very well) But, once past those physical attributes - and unconsciously convincing myself that skinny guys would not be as fun to hug - I'm definitely attracted to the eyes and the smile. When I saw my bf for the first time, I first noticed his great smile and beautiful eyes. And then when I got to talk to him, I was definitely attracted by his friendliness. I'm not sure how I attracted him initially (my friend who was acting as the middlewoman, told me that he told her he thought I was cute) since I'm pretty sure that I was wearing pajamas and showing everyone my latest skating knee bruise injury when I first met him.
But anyways, some biceps are nice, but a totally ripped body intimidates me. The guy probably goes to a gym on a regular basis, something that I'm too lazy to do, and it would make me feel bad. Too tall would also make it harder for me to hug the guy. Hah, I hug my bf and my neck starts to hurt already
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Really ? I wouldn't mind a girl like that (obviously ) but it's not exactly what I'm looking for.
I'm only 5'5", so I'd prefer a girl a bit taller than me, like 5'7 (although smaller girls look nice too). Nice skin... depends what you mean by that. I don't know why but I've always been attracted to really while girls (don't have to look dead either ). If possible it would be a brunette, not necessarily thin, she can be very average weight, I don't mind a couple of extra pounds, we can't be perfect. As breasts go, it's probably the last thing I'll notice. I don't mind the size as long as they're not too big.
One thing that surprises me though, I've never dated anyone ever ! I'm friendly and everything. Okay I'm shy, but that doesn't mean I wanna end up alone... And personaly, I don't consider myself attractive (if I go with what people seem to think) but I'm not so bad either.
Anyway, that's what I think.
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I always think I dreamed my boyfriend into life cause he found me and yet he's my "ideal guy" I guess you could say I like guys who aren't really tall but closer to my height so around 5'6-think that's so cute. Who have nice sculpted shoulders, tight butt, ooo, and most of all, eyes that dazzle Of all that though, it's the character of a person that I am drawn to first-at times that means regardless of their body type there's gotta be something there that swipes me off my feet through their character. The rest just seems to fall in place afterwards-like body type-and eventually you love everything about them!
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