Something to think about:
The original feminist critique of "objectification" never said that it was bad per se for women to be objects of sexual desire: what it was attacking was a system which treated women only as objects of sexual desire, only as commodities for other people (men) to look at, never as people who could also be subjects with sexual desires and feelings of their own.
Personally, as a life-long feminist myself, I don't see anything wrong with looking at someone and thinking "wow, they're cute"; it's only a problem if you go on to treat them in a way which ignores their personhood.
When it comes to what counts as "ogling" in real life, think about how you feel about other people's reaction to you. I imagine that you wouldn't mind at all if you found out that someone thought you looked attractive. But you'd likely be offended (with good cause) if, say, you were trying to have a conversation with someone and they just kept staring at your breasts or crotch.
If you're not doing that, but are treating people in a respectful way, I don't think you have anything to feel bad about.
[This message has been edited by logic_grrl (edited 12-16-2003).]