About a month ago my friend was involved with a guy who got her trashed and forced intercourse while she was not even conscious of what was happening. She broke up w/ this guy the next day and hasnt talked 2 him since. this was her first time having sex and i dont think she had forseen it wuite like this. She and her bf had held off doing anything sexually related because he had been w/ many other girls and she was very cautious about sti's. A little while ago she started to experience itchiness and marks around her vagina as well as stomach pain and mentioned it to me. I sent her immeadiately to the doctors to be checked out as we didnt want a yeast infection to get worse...or a possible pregnancy that she didnt want to confront. Yesterday she was diagnosed w/ type I herpes that she got from this jerk. I don't think he should just walk away from this w/ out dealing w/ what he's done to her or n e one else who has raped and knowingly passed on an STI. I want to know if he can be charged, first off w/ rape and second for giving her herpes. This is my best friend and now because of him she has this for life. She said she would have much rather been pregnant than to ever have 2 deal with this. I want to help and make sure this guy pays for he's done so maybe he wont harm n e other girls. i don't believe ne one... N E ONE should ever have 2 go through something like this. it is unacceptable behaviour and should not be taken lightly. I want to know what her rights are so we decide what to do next.
Since this was a month ago, she can certainly report this to the police (and the sooner she reports it, the better the chances of a successful prosecution).
Different countries have different laws regarding knowingly passing on STDs and whether that's a crime or not, but rape is a very serious crime and having intercourse with someone who is unconscious is clearly rape.
Age isn't really relevant in this case as the age of consent in Canada is 14. This may be a case of sexual assault and criminal negligence. However, this is a subject for the police and the Crown Attorney to decide. Your girlfriend shoud definately report this to the police and go from there.
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