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Today I met a girl through work she is 19 and I am 21 so were pretty close to the same ge. She is very enerjetic and forward and durin gthe course of the day she shared a lot with me. First she told me about her expirimentation with other girls in her class and her room mate. cuddling hugging and just general close contact. Anyway she was with during the day to observe me at my job working as part of her clinicals. I am not her teacher and this is the only day I was and will be observed by her. and he does not plan to work at our facility. I was and am developing feeling for her. But I choose not to approch her. after work though she gave me her phone number out of the blue. I was wondering how people felt about the ethics of a relationship with her might be. And be honest please.
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I dont think this is so much of an ethical question. There is nothing wrong with meeting people through work and then exploring possible relationships. Its nearly all practical problems that may present themselves. One problem would be if a personal relationsip were to diverge from a parallel work relationship. In other words, you break up with someone in a harsh manner but are still expected to work together.

In this case it seems your work relationship ends now, thus leaving the road open for other forms of relationship.

I am facing a similar worry at this time. I have been going out with someone for a bit over a month and now she has the opportunity to join in a venture with me and some of my friends. Now if we were to break up at some point, then we would both have to carry on working together for the sake of everyone else. Of course, I dont believe that we will break up, nor that such a break up would be particularly emotionally heavy. But I can never be sure so it might be better to err on the side of caution. On the other hand, this is a good opportunity for her and my relationship with her should not effect that.

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Most companies have a policy that work relationships are fine as long as one party does not have a reporting relationship to the other. I was in a relationship with a woman at work many years ago. We didn't make a big scene of it (no PDA's) but no secret either. We were both in totally different reporting paths so we could not influence the performance or salary reviews of the other. We had an amicable split and it didn't affect any working relationships.

We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.

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