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stevesbaby131
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i have a question, my mom would never let me have sex (this is very hypethetical by the way) and i was curious, if i wanted to have sex...is it her desicion if i can or cannot? since i'm 13 she says that she basically owns me until i'm 18, is that true too? i've been thinking about having sex in a couple of years but i'm thinking of doing it before i'm 18 and i don't want my mom to not let me, she has this way of....knowing everything i do...so i'm kinda afraid..haha thanx a lot you guys

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entropie
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Legally, you need to be over the Age Of Consent in your state to engage in sexual activity, regardless of whether your mother or parents approve or not. When you are the Age Of Consent or older, it is indeed your choice whether you have sex or not - but if that does not fall within the rules that your parents have while you live with them, perhaps you are better to respect how they feel. Someone else may need to clarify other laws regarding emancipation and parental rights in the US. (Emancipation is the release of a child from the control of their parents/guardians).

FYI, practically no US states have an Age Of Consent younger than 16. You can check your state at AgeOfConsent.com.

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Gumdrop Girl
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in addition to what entropie said, while your mom doesn't actually have a final say in the things your ultimately do, if it means a lot to you, considering what your mother taught you and the values she tried to instill in you is a perfectly okay reason to say no to sex for a while. by that, i mean if you are worried about hurting your mom's feelings or breaking her trust, then it's okay to say no. If that's a risk you're willing to take, however, then you mom can't really do anything to stop you.

With that said, age, love and stubbornness are probably popular reasons for doing it, but a lot of times, they don't really mean a person is ready for it. Check this out instead Ready or Not? ?The Readiness Checklist

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stevesbaby131
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thanx a lot but a question for what entropie said, does that Age Of Consent thing go for oral sex too? i mean it isn't really penetrating anything so that wouldn't count right? thanx again

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Gumdrop Girl
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Age of consent goes for oral sex and manual sex, and can include other acts (fondling, for example) depending on where you are.

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stevesbaby131
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thanx soooo much i really appreciate it

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The Hitman
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Man, I'd hate to live in America. I'm 18 and living in Australia, so I'm legal. I think the law here is that once you're over 16, it's open slather, as long as they're within two years of your age.

By the way, if manual stimulation is illegal until age of consent in America, I'm guessing there are a lot of kids breaking the law.

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