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Coffeecrazi15
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I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but, here it goes.
I just started high school this year. I recently found out about a group of guys that were participating in a "game". The point of the game was to have sex with girls and depending on the girl they would get a certain amount of points. Most of the kids in school know about this and most of the girls had sex with the guys willingly, but a dew have been raped. Last month a girl who had been raped by them went and told th eschool counselor, but the guy denied sleeping with her at all and no action was taken. Since she told what happned she has been harrassed by the guys in the group. I know that this is wrong, but I don't want to be subjugated to the harrassment of the guys and other students. Should I go to the administration or police? Or should I just not say anything?

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CutiePie4eva
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OMG! that is so horrible and disgusting! first off... that they have a GAME like that!?!? and 2nd that they are using this game as an excuse to rape people.

you should definately report the rapes! you should go to the police, and they wouldnt kno it was you... or at least i would think they wouldnt... if you're really really worried, than just report the happenings anonymously. i think thats incredibly horrible that there was no action taken after the girl told the councilor. that takes guts to admit something like that has happened to you, and for them to just not do anything about it... that disgusts me. =(

if anything, tell a professor or teacher who you trust, and they cna report it to the proper authorities. they must by law report something like rape, which means the coucilor has broken the law and can be fired for pulling that!

i hope these people wise up, and are put to justic. =(

good luck, at least you have the courage to help.


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lemming
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Many schools have a "tip line" that you can call to report on crimes anonymously. It seems to me that this is the type of thing for which that was invented.

I say go for it, if you know anything that may help. It's certainly not safe for you to do anything about it directly (like, say, confronting boys who are in this group), but if you have the power to inform the authority, by all means do it.

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Confused boy
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Bear in mind that the rape allegation may be false. This is a very odd and bad situation and clearly an investigation should take place but I would not jump to conclusions about what has actually happened. Rumours have a tendency to grow in strangeness and size. I find it hard to believe that these boys have such a complete lack of respect for fellow human beings. So I can only hope stories of this "game" might be untrue. It is possible that its more typical bragging that has been blown up by rumour. If it hasn't, then it is utterly awful.

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Heather
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Just FYI, this sort of "game" has actually become somewhat popular in high schools and colleges, I'm sorry to say.

I agree with you, Confused, about not leaping to conclusions, especially in terms of alleged rape (in which case it is up to the victim to report herself, and really, deciding to do that for her -- plural or singular -- is not respectful to a victim in most cases), but what has been described here is unfortunately not that uncommon in American schools lately.

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duckling
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Ugh. This sort of thing makes me really sick. What it says to me is "Girls are a game; we can play them as we see fit." I don't see a problem with guys having sex with girls, but I do have a problem with guys tricking girls into having sex with them so that the guys can tell their friends and win a game. That's ridiculous, and it's insulting.
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