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Apoc-chan
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Hmm, this is a fascinating topic...

I like feminity in guys... Lean, slender, especially with narrow shoulders and a prominant collarbone. I have this great big *Thing* for guys with long, silky hair. I like refined, angular features.

For girls, I'm attracted to boldness, strength, and sturdiness. I'm into the whole defiant, who-gives-a-care attitude, and I'm completely in love with the entire idea of tomboy.

My ideal partner is someone who can match me in verbal sparring and who is willing to fight me for the last cookie in the jar or whatever. ^^


o.o So I guess that means I want either a girly guy or a boyish girl... Go figure.


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don't ask me why but i really have a thing for tall guys... like the basketball player or soccer player body type. i'm not tall myself, i'm 5'6" about, and the guy i'm dating is 6'4" or so... and he played basketball in high school and for awhile in college... and what i mean by basketball player build is, defined muscles but not hugely muscular, thin, trim athletic guys. other than body type, i am a sucker for eyes and smile, you have a nice smile or nice eyes and i'm sucked in (guy i'm dating has baby blue eyes that are gorgeous, and such nice teeth lol) BUT the biggest thing with me is brains and humor. if i can't carry on a conversation with the guy, there's no point. and he's gotta be able to make me smile and laugh, and an intellectual debate now and again is always fun.
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Disclaimer: I do not date strictly within my preferences myself at all, and, frankly, a guy with a shining personality versus one without who looks my ideal would far outshine my preferences. It really is mostly about what's on the inside for me. . . That said, here it goes. . .
I really like the classic look of tall, dark, handsome. And well-dressed! An example would be Dean Cain playing Clark Kent on "Louis and Clark: The New Adventures of Superman." Of course, they don't have to be THAT ultra-muscley. I like a guy to be fit. Preferably taller than me. And on the well-sculpted side. He doesn't necessarily have to have a tan, I just really like dark hair and dark eyes. Although, black hair and blue eyes is a pretty dreamy combination to me too. Oddly, when it comes to physical relationships I've had (friends with benefits) or just general crushes, the most predominant preference I've had has been to red-headed, blue-eyed boys. Totally Irish. Go figure.
But, like I said in the disclaimer, I hardly limit myself. There are much more important things than looks. . . Like social and political awareness, a sense of humor, kindness. . .

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hmmm....I usually go for grrrls who are bigger, or are beautiful in unique ways....punky grrrls totally turn me on....I like fem guys- really gay guys who are cute, but in a boyish way, not in a big, muscled, he-man way....I have a thing for boyish queer transgendered guys.....

the only kinda look that really turns me off on grrls is the clone-tramp look...tight, low cute jeans and baby tees with big boobs, blonde hair, and too much make-up. On guys I hate the thug look...well, the thugged out guys are usually with the clone-tramps, anyway.....


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thinking over the last 6 or 7 years' worth of boyfriends and/or crushes, i came to the realization that nearly all of them have been the dark, mysterious-looking type. the exception would be that blond cutie i had a crush on for a month during my freshman year of high school, but hey. about half have actually been hispanic, and i must say that i share my mom's attraction to Antonio Banderas. another boyfriend was half african american, half caucasian (which gave him approximately the same skin color as someone who's hispanic) and my current partner is caucasian, but has nearly black hair. mrrowr ;-)
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Has anyone noticed...

...that a lot of girls always seem to like the dark and mysterious Josh Hartnett type of guy and a lot of guys like the blond-haired, blue-eyed Anna Kournikova?

I'm not saying everybody does (because I know a bunch of people who don't), but it just seems like a weird pattern.

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quote:
Originally posted by Daydreamer24:
...that a lot of girls always seem to like the dark and mysterious Josh Hartnett type of guy and a lot of guys like the blond-haired, blue-eyed Anna Kournikova?

I would think that a lot of that comes from it being the beauty standard. And there's nothing wrong with people finding it attractive. It's only when Vogue and Cosmopolitan decide to pressure everyone into thinking that's the picture of perfection, and therefore, if you don't fit it, well... uh-oh for you.

Oy, I hope that made sense? Coffee?

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I think Josh Hartnett is incredibly hot, buit for the opposite reason: not for being dark and mysterious, but the hot-boy-next door.
But I'm also totally swooning over Legolas from LOR and he's a blond, long haired elf.

So there :P


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ummmm....hmmm...

I'm into the dorky, funny but smart type of guys. They have to be able to look stupid in front of me without worrying about what i think. Oh and he has be as stubborn and pig headed as me, I can't date a guy who wimps out when we get into an arguement, especially an intellectual one. If i win an arguement i want to actual win it because i was right.

On to the physical aspect. I like guys who have broad shoulders, or actually shoulders that are broader then mine (i'm no petite chickidee.) He has to also have his own sense of style.I'm not saying a trend setter, but a guy who doesn't follow what everyone else is into.


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quote:
But I'm also totally swooning over Legolas from LOR and he's a blond, long haired elf.

ooooh, i very definitely hear you there. i suppose he's another exception to my rule, though i also find aragorn (the dark, mysterious ranger/returning king) super attractive.


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Yeah, I got it and thanks, Tim.

Yeah, I do agree. I think the media definitely puts too much pressure on beauty standards.

I don't buy CosmoGIRL to actually read it, I buy it because it's kind of fun to poke at the editors and to feel sorry for the people who do agree with it.

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I noticed a lot of people have put comments about being attracted to black or asian people. However, not many people (certainly not many white people) have come out and said they are attracted to white people. Some people have implied it by saying they like blondes or people with blue eyes, as these people are almost exclusively white (although some mixed race people have the most gorgeous blue eyes).
OK, I'll say it. I have NEVER been attracted to a black man. this is not a racist thing, it is purely sexual preference.

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I'm caucasion. I'm not attracted to anybody who's not caucasion (well, the guy I like right now is half-Hispanic). I don't have a problem with people who aren't caucasion, just I don't tend to be attracted to them. Of course, if I ever was I'd definitely date them. Not to say my Dad would agree to it, but I'd do it.
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I don't actually have any aesthetic preferences, and I definitely don't have a preference for circumcised penises as the man generally didn't choose it themselves, I would date a circumcised man (though not if they chose it themselves for religious beliefs of any kind which they still hold as I am very irreligious, but if they chose it just because that's what they wanted to do then that would be fine), but I don't prefer circumcised penises. I don't think it matters what you look like. I will say that, while I don't think that I'll have any kind of issue dating someone aged forty when I'm forty, I associate their physical appearance with the power they have over me, so I can't actually be really strongly attracted to somebody that age, as in, I can't think "oh if they were 20 I'd kiss them" because they have a 40 year old's body.

I will say I used to think Josh Hartnett was very very pretty when I was about 14, and I had a huge thing for Jamie Lee Curtis, which may have had something to do with the androgynous short hair (though more generally they seem nice, I still like them now for their personality). The funny thing is I've actually done more enthusiastic squealing over, say, Rufus Wainwright, simply because I think they have a brilliant voice that makes me really happy and want to jump up and down and giggle, than over Josh Hartnett, or David Boreanaz, or James Masters, or Alyson Hannigan, or Jamie Lee Curtis, or anyone else I used to think was cute or pretty or whatever.

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I'm white, and very attracted to black men, but I've only dated a couple. I'm attracted to other races too... I've dated guys with all sorts of ethnicity. Once I started dating guys that were uncircumcised I found I really like that as well. I like nerdy guys, probably because I am nerdy myself. I like men that are taller and bigger than I am. And looking back at my dating history, I seem to be attracted to shy guys, I think it's very cute. I definitely like smart men, someone who I can have an intelligent conversation with. And religion turns me off.

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For me, it isnít all about looks but mostly about what a given person's personality is, how well it meshes with mine, how much I connect with a given person.

Thatís not saying that I donít care at all about looks but Iím just saying that this is generally not the most important thing for me. I donít think there are particular physical features I look for in guys.

I can safely say though that Iím not attracted to guys who are very muscular, that this is sort of a turn-off for me.

I like people who have a great sense of humor (but not too much), I like people who are caring, intelligent, sensitive and honest, who are not afraid to show their own emotions. Too, I donít like overly confident person who think theyíre better than others, who put themselves on an higher pedestral than others or make judgements about others when they don't even know them. So someone's attitude is also something that matters to me.

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Well, my favorite physical characteristics are brown hair and brown eyes. That is more than likely due to the massive crush I've had on Harrison Ford since the age of seven [Big Grin] I've also noticed that I have a serious thing for Indian guys - Mohinder Suresh on Heroes, anyone? >:} For a while, I thought I was attracted to skinny freckled redheaded nerds, although this never manifested itself in anything other than people I made up in my head [Wink]

The guys I've ACTUALLY been interested in in person, though, have not really shared many common physical characteristics. They've been blond, brunette, redheads, Caucasian, Indian, Chinese, blue-eyed, brown-eyed, green-eyed...you get the picture [Wink]

Right now I'm in to slightly overweight, blond curly-haired boys...because I'm so attracted to my boyfriend [Wink] (Yes...I actually developed a mini-crush on Seth Rogen because of this...) And...I think I prefer uncircumcised penises. I KNOW this is because my boyfriend's penis is uncircumcised (that and...circumcised penises in porn just look so...static, like they're just being performed upon and aren't active participants in the act. But I think that might just be a porn thing in general...) But the thing is, I was attracted to none of those things in particular before I started dating my boyfriend.

One thing I've NEVER been into, though, is super muscled guys. I mean, I guess it's OK to have some definition, but bulging muscles do absolutely nothing for me. Also extremely short hair is not so cool with me. Basically, I wouldn't be physically attracted to a stereotypical Marine ;P

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Physically I generally like a feminine face and decent figure, and an absence of any physically masculine features. A simple natural beauty. A good smile is great. Usually skinny/petite girls, but occasionally an overweight girl has body fat in the right places and has good proportions.

I keep thinking about attractiveness in terms of evolution. That if someone is physically attractive they have good genes, are physically fit, and have a lot of testosterone if male, or estrogen if female. This evolution based thinking has probably caused me to focus on the "feminine physical traits". Sometimes a feel guilty for being shallow, especially around girls with lots of belly fat, which is a huge turn off.

Of course personality is more important for any real relationship. I want someone who is intelligent and compassionate. A feminine feminist. Someone who is beautiful on the inside too. I hate anyone superficial, so much so that I feel less attracted to some "well dressed" girls out of fear they are too shallow.

I keep having crushes on nerdy girls. You had me at the Star Wars reference. Oh, and the smile, the SMILE!

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It depends partly on the kind of attraction we're talking about here; if I see someone walking down the street and think they're beautiful I classify it very differently from the attraction I get to people who I love to pieces because of who they are. (I've started classifying my attractions into three different types: aesthetic, sexual, and character attraction.)
One of my partners and I, when we're walking around downtown, tend to notice pretty people and point them out to each other (though we don't always agree.) One thing he's noticed about my attractions is that I tend to go for girls with scarves, and people who look like hippies in general. I've noticed that I tend to like people who look like "outsiders"--not fitting into a social group, and not really caring. So, most of my immediate attraction-or-not to someone is based on the way they present themselves through clothing, makeup, body hair, jewelry, etc.

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