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Layla
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In response to Logic Grrl's question I am about to start my third and final year of psychology before I go into medical training after which I plan to become a psychiatrist (hopefully).
I became interested in the subject of and the feelings behind sex after being in a sexually abusive relationship left me a bit scarred .
For my dissertation I hope to find out whether sex has become more casual over the years for both males and females, and then try to find why. My hypothesis is that sex had become more casual as, whereas sex and love used to be linked together relative to today's society where I feel that the act of sex and the feelings of love are not as associated. I hope that makes sense
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It might be a good idea for your dissertation to define your terms a bit more.

For example, what do you mean by "casual"? I know some people who've had one-night stands or short-term relationships or non-monogamous relationships in which they've been very responsible and caring about the well-being of their partner. Is that "casual sex"? Some people might say it is, some people might say it isn't. And I know people in long-term monogamous relationships who have unsafe or thoughtless sex. Is that "casual"?

And there are at least two possible ways of interpreting the idea of sex and love being "associated". Are you talking about saying that they're the same thing, or about having the moral belief that they ought to go together?

I'm not trying to put you off, but I'm sure you've been told umpteen times on your psychology course that you need to define your terms for any study and be clear on what you mean by them, especially when they're potentially ambiguous ones like these. If people answering the questions interpret them in a different way from you, then you're not going to get answers to the questions you actually meant to ask.


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CutiePie4eva
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i dunno really what you are saying, but lemme know if i got this right... ur trying to find out if love and sex are still connected in todays world...right?

well... i think it varies with the person... you cant say that it totally is connected or totally isnt... and i dont really think you can say how it is for the majority of people either.

sure i know a handfull of people who are promiscuous, but there is also my other hand that is full of people who decide that sex is ONLY for the one they love.

there are soooo many types of people... who have sex (or dont have sex) for all different types of reasons... those who are sheltered from everything, those who are full of morals and virtues, those religious, those searching for love, those who just want to have fun, those who didnt have a choice in the matter, etc etc etc.

and what about those who think they are in love, no questions asked... they may not really be... but they truly believe they are... or those who think that love comes with sex... so they connect love and sex, but in the wrong way...

some people who attach very easily to others believe they are in love in a week, even a day... what is your definition of love? and what if it differs from theirs?

there are so many different ideas of love... love of a friend... so you can have sex with friends... that is still linking love with sex...

etc etc etc... i think its an interesting idea to do a paper on... but there are so many definitions of love, and so many people in the world... so many different types of people... i dont know how you would be able to write it up without making a LOT of assumptions...

good luck tho!


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I think your thinking is pretty on target. (haha that sounded funny lol)

I think the main reason teens are having sex for the wrong reasons is a self esteem issue. Many girls have sex too early to satisfy their boyfriend because they don't have enough self-esteem to think that a guy should like them whether they have sex or not. Then they start associating sex with approval. To get a guy's approval a girl will perform oral sex or even intercourse with guys they barely know, just to feel like they are worth something.

So really, sex is still associated with love; but many teen girls assume that you have to have sex to have love...hmmm...


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quote:
Originally posted by morganlh85:
but many teen girls assume that you have to have sex to have love...hmmm...

I don't think that that is true at all. I know plenty of teen girls who have boyfriends and who love them, but don't have sex with them or even think that.

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quote:

I don't think that that is true at all. I know plenty of teen girls who have boyfriends and who love them, but don't have sex with them or even think that.


She Only said many girls. I think Its the Girls Who Are more Concerned about how they look. Or the Ones with low Self-esteem

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I just found that offensive. And maybe a few girls think like that, but to say many just offeneded me.

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This thread is really becoming laden with generalizations. Let's keep the guidelines in mind at all times please. Also, here are some great tips on board etiquette.

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Layla
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The way I would define casual sex is 'sexual intercourse with a person without particularly wanting to continue a relationship with that person'. It is a tough one to define so what would your definitions be?
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quote:
The way I would define casual sex is 'sexual intercourse with a person without particularly wanting to continue a relationship with that person'.

I have a couple of questions about this definition:

Are you only asking about sexual intercourse? (What about oral sex, manual sex and so forth?)

And where would "friends who have sex" fit in? You can have sex with someone and and be very committed to continuing the friendship, but not necessarily the sexual relationship. Is that "casual sex" or not?

As you say, it's a tough one to define. But that's why it's helpful to define your terms first.


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