Believe it or not, ThisGuy, I once heard three guys who were waiting to get treated for HPV (genital warts) doing exactly that. I was waiting to do an interview with a doctor at a clinic, and while sitting in the waiting room, I overheard their conversation...
"Dude! Cool that there's another guy here."
"Yeah, dude. I figured it'd be all girls."
"You here with your girlfriend, dude?"
"Naw, dude, I gotta see a doctor."
"Me too. I got one of those warts."
"No way, dude! Me too!"
"Yeah way, dude! HOw about you?"
"Yeah, me too, but you know, I think I got it from this serious babe. I mean, she's like, totally Baywatch. So it's like, almost worth it, you know?"
And so on and so forth. I just rolled my eyes as they all tried to one-up each other with regard to the "babeness" of their infectious conquests. Pretty gross, really.
Yuk yuk yuk. - That is unbelievable, Hanne. I know *yuk* is thankfully and under normal cicumstances not an acceptable word over here at these boards, but that story is DISGUSTING. Hope you don't mind my yuk-ing. Yuk.
------------------ Just a regular lunatic. Go inside Alaska's head...
I think it comes down to 2 things. Pressure and naivety.
From my own personal experience, when I lost my virginity at 13, I was fairly dumb when it came to the workings of the body.. so I had unprotected sex the first time.
There was a lot of pressure from the others at school.. using protection wasn't cool.. apparently it was like saying "I'm a dweeb". Of course, that isn't true, and I've learned a lot since then (5 years ago), but I guess a lot of people haven't.
Sex ed standards still ain't quite right, there isn't enough knowledge floating around, too many myths.. and too many people risking their health, and lives, to follow these 'trends'.
That's really a simple but poignant story, Hanne. I think it displays the results of something I've mentioned before--there is a strange, subtle (or maybe not so subtle) pressure in our culture on men that you feel especially as an adolescent (a stage many men refuse to grow out of).
I guess you said it, a pressure to "conquer". It drives men to do all sorts of stupid, butthead things to women.
With that "babe" attitude how could anyone develop a healthy relationship?
More than yuk, we should cry.
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