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Hi everyone !
I was just thinking about that the other day. What would you think/ how you'd react if a family member or a friend gave you a sex toy as gift for christmas/birthday ?

Thanks !

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Well, it's not a sex toy, but my best friend is threatening to tape condoms to my locker for Christmas . I told her I'd be mortified .

Yeah, well I'VE got blood dripping out of a hole between my legs, do YOU?!?
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lol, I'm giving my best friend a vibrator for her next birthday...but that's basically a big inside joke! We've been laughing about doing something like that for ages, she said I wouldn't do it, so I'm (of course) going to send her one now! It's no big if my mom sent me something like that, it might weird me out a bit. I dunno though, I think it depends on who it is, and what they send you maybe.


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it would not surprise me if my cousins bought me toys for the holidays as a joke. they came to visit me here in berk, and i took them to this awesome sex-positive shop called Good Vibrations. the place isn't seedy at all, very women-friendly, queer-friendly, even many friendly. Diverse group of shoppers. loads of safer sex supplies (a wall of condoms!) and book and everything. very cool.

but if anyone else gives me a toy, i think i'd have to freak.

btw, i give condoms as party favors

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Gumdrop -- Good Vibes in Berkeley rawks. I've taught classes there, and it's a truly fine place, as is the original store over in San Francisco. Those kinds of stores are fun to browse in -- you can find all sorts of new condoms and lubes to try, and you can buy one of each (individual condoms, small tester sizes of lubes) if you want to sample, which is kind of nice.

As for buying other people sex toys? I don't do that, even for people I've known for a long time. It would be a very friendly gesture, however, to buy someone you care for a gift certificate to a good sex toy/book store. Sex toys are very personal. Heck, even choosing a condom brand is very personal, and individual preferences vary quite a lot. With a gift certificate, a person can get exactly what they want. It's a great alternative to guessing wrong when it comes to something as potentially touchy as sex toys.

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It depend what family member it is, like if my dad or mom gave me a sex toy, I'd wanna know what they started smokin'...I dont think I would feel comfy. "Here have a vibrator and a dildo"..."Oh thanx, I've always wanted one of these for Christmas!!!" LOL!! I dont think so!! To weird, I think if you want a sex toy, buy it yourself, its personal. And I think you will feel more comfy.

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I really don't know what I'd do if one of my parents bought me a sex toy. Actually I think the idea of it is very very funny. What would be even funnier is if I got them some kind of sex toy, like a strap on dildo for my mom. Now THAT would be funny!


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oh my goodness..teehee~what a question! I would probably freak out if some1 from my family gave me that. My friend....that would still be a weird, but it would depend who, b/c if its in a joking manner that's funnny as long as you don't open it in front of anyone!! LoL! Got any more questions like this? It gave me a good laugh!!

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It's kind of funny to see this topic, because just yesterday I was laughing with my boyfriend about an ad for a sex shop that said "perfect gifts for office parties, family, and friends". We both thought it would be dumb to buy sex toys for your family. I suppose we say that though, because we're both only children, and aren't very close to cousins our age. I guess I could see it if you were close with a sibling or cousin, but not a parent/child/aunt etc.

As for office parties or friends, I can see it as a joke. I don't really feel comfortable talking about sex with my friends, though. Most of them are virgins and I'd feel weird admitting that I'm not (even though they've probably guessed).

Gumdrop, I would love to find someplace like Good Vibrations here. I've only been to one sex shop, and I was disappointed that it didn't have any books. Also, it would be nice to find a place that caters a bit more to queers.

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Rizzo, the place to go in Montreal is L'Androgyne (3636 St. Laurent). It is an excellent queer and feminist bookstore that now carries JoyToyz distributed sex toys (a woman run, queer friendly business). I buy all my books there and all my toys from Joy Toyz.

You can also find them at the Rusty Plum Winter Craft Fair (176 Bernard West) on the 9th and 10th as well as 16th-21st of December (11am-6pm).

If you are under 18, I believe they will not sell you sex toys but you can browse at these locales for future reference.

Louise Lalonde
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And glad to just be me"
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