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My friend doesn't think men can be raped - I say they can. Can anyone back me up? What do you guys think?
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Anyone can be raped, no matter what sex. Rape is the act of sexual intercourse being forced upon a person. A person, not a female.
I think your friend might be a little confused b/c it is a little less common in males. Plus the number of males who refuse to report it are probably higher than females who don't report ... and if they don't report it, then charges can't be laid and so on ...
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I agree with Smurf but I'll take this from the girl-rapes-guy-angle. We had this discussion in my psych class. Now how can you physically rape a guy if his penis is flaccid? The guy doesn't want any sexual interaction whatsoever, there's no part of him that even secretly wants to. I guess you can do whatever you can to get his penis erect but I don't think it's going to happen since he's so against it psychologically.
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You know, the reporting stats on male rape are so low precsiely because most men who are raped are sure no one will believe them. It is truly sad.
Rape isn't just about sexual intercourse. Rape, technically and legally, is about ANY sexual attack. So, if someone forces you to perform oral sex to them against your will, it's rape. If someone fondles your breasts or genitals against your will, it is rape or molestation. If someone puts their fingers in your anus against your will, it's rape. If someone forces or coerces you to do anything invasively sexual to them, or to have anything sexual performed upon you, it is rape, my dears.
And for the record, people can often become physically aroused when they are NOT mentally aroused, and especially when they are scared. Ask every guy here how many times he has (usually to his embarassment) gotten an erection when he didn't want one, or when he wasn't aroused. It happens ALL the time. Even women often report a great amount of shame at becoming aroused during rape or having orgasm during rape. It happens again and again.
Men rape women. Women rape women. Men rape men. Women rape men. Men and women rape children. While there is no question that men statistically rape more often (and rape both men and women) than women do, it's more often, not outside the stratosphere. And the "force" aspect of rape is not just about physical force. It is about force or coersion.
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If someone tricked someone else into having sex by misinformation or such, would that be considered rape? Even though at the time it was consented.
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In one of the newspapers that I get at home, there was recently a letter published about the raping of men. Apparently, there had been a piece in the paper some days earlier where the writer was using male rape (or the raping of men, just so it's clear) as some sort of a running joke throughout the article. Well, the letter writer pointed out that he thought there were perhaps just as many men raped in Canada on any given day as there are women raped in Canada -- the difference being that most of the men are in prison, so it's all a big joke.
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Wuwu, What you;re referring to is legally called "coerscion," and yes, it can certainly be a factor in rape cases, althought in and of itself, that alone usually isn't enough to prosecute someone for rape. Rape by definition does imply physical force or the threat of physical force being exerted by the perpetrator.
If we're talking about consenting adults, not children or minors, someone really can't "trick" someone else into an act of sex if that person knows what that act is. Certainly, lying to someone to get them to desire a sex act is not okay and is reprehensible, but in most cases it's legal.
And that is truly sad, Dzunnmod.
You know, the general statistic on rape as a whole is that only an approximate one out of six rapes is ever reported, and based on other statistics, I'd reckon that at least one of each of those five left unreported are likely with a male victim.
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