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Sandy
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I have 2 questions about what happens if you drink before & while having sex. The 1st is: Can a guy get an erection if he's considerably drunk? (I heard its very difficult)
And the 2nd: does drinking alcohol affect girls or boys' orgasms?

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Heather
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I should also add that studies have been done about sex and alchohol which show VERY clearly, that when under the influence of alchohol, most people are inclined to make poor sexual judgements and decisions that they would not make when sober.
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Justoneoftheguys
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From my experiences it can be very difficult to get an erection while completely plastered. It seems to be that way only when i want it the most though. Go figure! Speaking of orgasms. They usualy aren't that great because most of the time i fall asleep in 5 seconds and it wasn't worth all the work. When your really drunk its hard to even have sex. If your only mildly drunk then its awesome! The next morning you probably won't remember how it even felt.
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ThisGuy
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I believe men have great difficulty with erection when very drunk.

Women have a similar difficulty with lubrication.

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Hanne
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Personally, I refuse (as I always have) to do anything sexual when either I or a partner is under the influence of alcohol or any other mood-altering substance, because people are not at their best ability to make good decisions when they are under the influence.

However, yes, many men do have trouble getting and/or keeping erections when they're drunk, and drunk women often have trouble with their bodies not producing adequate vaginal lubrication, so that penetration can be quite uncomfortable. Doesn't sound worth it to me.

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Gumdrop Girl
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alcohol is a depressant. yes, enough of it will make erection very difficult. your parasympathetic nervous system controls erection, and suppressing the nervous system (as booze does) will make that all the more difficult.

there's something horribly unsexy about someone who is inebriated, anyway. then again, this weekend, i saw my boyfriend passed out from too much alcohol for the first time. he was pallid and unconcious on the bathroom floor by the toilet. i picked him up, slung him over my shoulder and carried him to bed.

i was a bit miffed about that, but i still took care of him like any caring girlfriend should.

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n2o
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Just thought I'd add; I just found that it's easier to orgasm while baked (on weed). I don't mean to promote drug use, but I thought I'd mention it for other girls who have problems achieving orgasm.
Also, I'm not sure if it's already well-known, but it's difficlt to have an erection on ecstasy. (but not MDA)

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Hanne
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I will simply insert this caveat:

Not everything works the same way for all people. (I personally have known several people (male and female) who, when stoned, simply can't orgasm at all.)

Having difficulty orgasming is not necessarily a good argument for experimenting with a substance that is illegal. There are other ways to have orgasms, and other ways to learn how to make that process easier. It'd be a shame to end up feeling like you could only have orgasms easily if you were using a drug, no matter what that drug was or whether it was legal or illegal.

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n2o
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Yep, I agree. The weed only indirectly helped me by helping me to relax and just enjoy myself. That experience gave me a certain level of confidence and now it's always easier for me. My boyfriend and I don't plan on having sex again while intoxicated again, for intimacy reasons.
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