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I have never had a boyfriend. I'm 19. I'm thin. strangers tell me I'm pretty. I'm nice.. really nice and goofy. I don't know whats wrong with me.

I have watched all of my friends have boyfriends, but I never nabbed one.. but not for lack of trying. Why am I so unlovable?

I am starting to get frustrated. A new friend of mine has this amazing boyfriend. but shes obese and bossy. I see all of these mean girls get great guys and break their hearts. AHHH.

It would be nice to just know what I'm doing wrong. I'm myself.. or why naturally I'm not gf material.

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For starters, you seem to put a lot of weight on weight itself.

Someone can love you whether you're 10 or 100 pounds. While some people are specific about weight, others couldn't care less and sometimes even prefer heavier-set partners.

As well, she may seem bossy to you. But people act differently towards different people. Maybe her boyfriend even likes it, who knows?

Just because you don't have a boyfriend doesn't mean you're unlovable.

Maybe you'd have better luck if you got into a relationship out of having a good bond with someone instead of trying to get into one for the sake of that title.

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Just for the record, people of all sizes are deserving of love: what you weigh and what your friend weigh have no bearing on either of you being more or less deserving. Please too remember that Scarleteen serves about the most diverse group imaginable: I hear you feeling low about yourself, but let's not inadvertently express that in ways that makes others feel crappy about themselves, okay? [Smile]

As well, someone not having a romantic partner doesn't mean they are unloveable (nor does having one mean someone is loved): there are a lot of kinds of love and sources of love.

What has your dating history been like so far? How do dates tend to go with you? What are you looking for in a romantic relationship? What makes you think you're doing anything wrong?

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