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colyncorin
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I have a room mate and she does not want to do the cleaning! I've hinted her so many times and I am very fed up about this. Her hairs are falling off her head so much that the whole floor in the room and bath room are filled with her hair. I was the one who picked it up for her all the time and now I didn't do it for a few weeks to let her know it's hers to do. But....it's helpless. HELP!!!!! The room is such a mess. I have cleaned my part..I cant move out since I am on a contract. T.T Any suggestions?
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Ecofem
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Argh, roommate conflicts are never fun, AmyMay, I hear you there. Have you ever spoken directly to her about this?

"___, I feel like I've been doing most (all!) of the cleaning lately, and I think it would be best to make a cleaning schedule that works for both of us. What do you think?"

or

"___, you have such beautiful, long hair. The only issue with that is that I'm finding it all over the floor and bathroom. Do you notice it, too?"

Do you have a resident assistant whom you can talk to about this, too? I'd try to directly (in a friendly way) confront your roommate first, but then seek additional help if necessary.

Good luck! [Smile]

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Narwhal
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Definitely try to discuss a cleaning schedule that will work for both of you. I kind of was the bad roommate for a while (I hate to admit it, but it's true) and part of it had to do with my schedule being very difficult. The day that my roommate did the cleaning was Saturday, which was the only day I had for catching the bus to the grocery store, catching up on my reading for classes, etc...Needless to say this didn't work too well.

I'd suggest you work out an arrangement for all shared spaces whereby you each A)clean up after your own messes as you go and B)take turns with jobs that have to be done on a regular basis.

Another option might be to discuss specific jobs, for example, "I know you don't like vacuuming the floor, and I don't mind doing it if you'll take care of the dusting." Or, "I'll cook dinner for both of us if you'll wash the dishes." Of course, if your roommate is opposed to all forms of housework, this won't do you much good. [Frown] But it lets her know she needs to do her share.

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