I've been away for nearly 8 1/2 months. While I was away I could flirt and meet new people all the time. I'm home, I'm with my best friend and still I yearn to be back in a world where I could meet new people every day. It's really hard to be back with my responsibilities and my parents.
My parents are separated and have a rather unpleasant relationship. I was able to escape the worst of it while I was away, but now I'm back hearing them b*tch about each other all the time.
I was really looking forward to coming home and now I don't know why home seemed so great.
Is it normal to feel so weird coming home?
Have any of you been through this?
Has anyone got any advice for me?
Thank you in advance,
------------------ "You die if you worry. You die if you don't." Edward Alexander Hendry
I went away to university. I live alone in an apartment. I come and go as I please.
I'm at home right now, and not only is it weird to have to deal with my parents and rules and the like, I'm actually disoriented. I can't find stuff. My sleep cycles are wrecked. And my bed, which I slept on for years and years before is now totally uncomfortable.
They say you can never go home. I wouldn't go that far, but there is a Twilight Zone sort of feeling in there...
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I think one of the most important things to do is to remember that you can't come home and expect things to be the way they were before. Remember that not only have you changed, but also your family and friends have changed in some ways too. Everything changes, the world keeps turning and things move on. And that's ok. This is the 3rd time I've moved home from college now (at least I think it's the third time...) and it's insanely different. Living under my parents roof, with their rules, and having people around me all the time is very different. Some nights I think I'm going to start throwing things at my mom since she insists on sticking her head in everynight to tell me goodnight (without knocking first!). But I love my family, and I just keep thinking that I don't have to live with them for THAT much longer before school starts back up.
And hey, while it may seem weird now, it's gonna get weirder once you move out for real. That's when life REALLY starts changing. Just remember things won't be this way forever. Keep your chin up!
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